Module 2 • Behaviour Problems 3 Ask your child what happened
Once the dust has settled, if you didn't see the events leading up to the biting, ask the child what was going through his head when he bit the other child? Does he remember what he was thinking? What should he have done differently?
4 Talk to your child about what he should do when he's upset
As a pre-schooler matures, they start to develop a whole host of emotions that they may not quite know what to do with. This is especially true for anger. Explain that when he is starting to feel mad or angry or frustrated that's the time he needs to ask a grown-up for help.
Some children (especially older pre-schoolers) are reluctant to go to a grown-up when they are being teased or having trouble with another child because they don't want to be labelled a tattletale. Keeping that in mind, the next time your child does come to you complaining about something someone has done to him, be sure to pay attention and take his concerns seriously. It could curb a biting incident in the future.
5 Figure out the triggers
If your child is a habitual biter, think about what it is that sets him off. It most likely is not a random occurrence. If you can figure out what it is that causes your child to bite, you can figure out how best to stop him from biting in the first place. Then, when you are at playgroup or on a playdate, keep a close watch on your child. If you think he is going to bite, intervene immediately and redirect him to a different activity.
6 Say no and leave
Seems simple but you need to spell it out. Tell your child that biting is wrong, end of story. Don't yell or scream. Stay as calm as you can and firmly say, "No. We don't bite. You hurt Sally. Now we have to leave," and remove your child from the situation.
7 Get help
If the biting is regular and your methods aren't working, it might be time to ask for help. Consult your pediatrician or your child's teacher for advice.
5.2 Lying
Living with a pre-schooler, you may sometimes feel like you are the whole time trying to determine which statements that come out of your child’s mouth are real and which are objects of their imagination.
“I didn’t spill the milk,” said the 3-year-old who is standing in a puddle of the white stuff with an empty cup in her hand. “The baby broke my toy car.” “I didn’t take out all these toys, the dog did.” The tall tales go on and on.
But the truth of the matter is all kids lie occasionally. And although lying is a normal part of a child’s development, it’s not something you can overlook. As a parent, it’s your job to teach
62 DEFINITION
A lie is untrue statement, changing the truth, not telling the truth.
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