SHAPING YOUR FAMILY’S FUTURE Chapter 4 4A
As you begin this session, it’s helpful to take an honest look at the way you were parented. This requires some emotional work on your part. Do your best to set aside your assumptions about your family. Instead, approach these questions with a sense of curiosity and compassion. • What are some ways your parents expressed love and care for you? How do you feel about these expressions of love now that you’re older? Were they sufficient? How might your Enneagram relational pattern be connected to your feeling about your parents’ expressions of love? What could your parents have done better to show their love?
• How does what you’ve learned from your genogram change the way you think about your parents? Do you believe they had the tools needed to parent you the way you wish you had been parented?
• What family parenting patterns do you see when you look back to how your grandparents raised your parents? What patterns do you want to hold onto? What patterns do you want to get rid of?
Return to Chapter 4 4B
Work with your co-parent to come up with a vision for your growing family. Start by thinking about your family of origin and the pieces of your past that you want to carry into the future.
• Where does your family of origin fall on Olson’s Circumplex Model’s spectrum in terms of its cohesion, flexibility, and communication?
• Where on this same spectrum would you like to see the family you are creating? • Think of at least three ways you and your co-parent can create a connected, flexible, communicative family.
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