DERNIER MOT ❘ THE LAST WORD EXCUSE ME, MAY I KISS* YOU? To bise, or not to bise? That is the question on Kristin’s (and many others’) lips this month… T
BY KRISTIN ESPINASSE
wo Sundays ago, my plans to sneak out of church were foiled when I ran smack into another member in the hallway. The young
father, who had stepped out of the service to calm his toddler, automatically stood to say goodbye in French: that is, he reached to kiss me on each cheek. I confess, no matter how much experience I have
Below: Kristin’s dog, Smokey,
offering free kisses. If only giving out les bises were that simple! Right: Postwoman Marie
with la bise, I’m still never quite sure who and when to kiss: acquaintances from church? Do we kiss them (apparently, yes)? Well then, what about the preacher? (I found out the answer the next week, when our French pastor kissed me on both cheeks). Beyond l’église and its members, who are the other kissable people in our neighbourhood? What about our postal worker? Last January, at the time of les étrennes (the tradition of giving gifts to those who make our lives easier), our factrice got a most unexpected peck on her helmet. It left a bright pink kiss mark front and centre. But who could blame my Mom for planting it there? A recent immigrant to France, Mom doesn’t yet know the rules (not that rules would stop her from expressing her gratitude toward Postwoman Marie, with whom she shares a rare complicité). After the folks at church and the municipal workers, what about la coiffeuse? Three years as a faithful client and I still don’t know whether to kiss my
hairdresser (or to tutoyer or vousvoyer, for that matter). So I follow her erratic example: just because she kissed me at New Year, it didn’t mean we would faire la bise ever again. Go figure!
KISS CHASE
That leaves us with our neighbours. I seem to remember kissing all of them at last summer’s Fête des Voisins. But after that community initiative, none of us has seen each other since, so I will have to keep you posted! Signing off now I’m wondering about you, Cher Lecteur. Would it be ok to kiss vous? After all, you have listened like a close friend and I am most grateful. Donc, je vous fais la bise. FT Kristin Espinasse is the author of Words in a French Life, Blossoming in Provence and the French Word-A-Day blog.
FRENCH VOCABULARY LA BISE = kiss L’ÉGLISE (F) = church LES ÉTRENNES = New Year’s gift, tip LA FACTRICE = postwoman LA COMPLICITÉ = bond LA COIFFEUSE = hairdresser TUTOYER/VOUSVOYER = to address someone informally or formally
LA FÊTE DES VOISINS = neighbourhood party FAIRE LA BISE = to kiss on the cheek as a form of greeting JE VOUS FAIS LA BISE = I’m going to kiss you
* UPDATE Within weeks of writing this essay, the question of who and when to kiss became irrelevant when the coronavirus swept into France. Until the epidemic is over, we are following the government’s suggestion and keeping our lips to ourselves. Bon courage and kisses to you all from afar!
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