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August 2018
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tips to lose weight on hol- idays!
11 Go easy on the carbs
by JOANNE DELANEY Hello from Sunny
Barcelona!!! So I’ve picked up a few
really excellent tips here especially in the 33 degree heat! Here’s part two of the
after 6pm Eating late is common on holiday, so ignore the bread basket and, if you want pasta and rice dish- es or chips, have them at lunchtime. 12 Steer clear of any
rich dishes
I DON’T LIKE FLYING
Avoid anything in
creamy sauces or with pastry. And anything that’s described as being pan fried, deep fried, sau- teed, flambeed or roasted will have
with oil. 13 Think about
been cooked a
shared desert Opt for two courses at
dinner instead of three – or think about sharing a
starter and desert. 14 Shun the oil If lasagne, ¬moussaka and risotto look as though they’re
¬swimming in
oil, use a paper napkin or piece of bread to soak up the excess
15 Be careful at the sal-
ad bar It may seem you’re hav- ing the healthiest option
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It’s that time of year again!
CAO place. 2: Avoid the drama with family and friends and neighbours. Your child’s re- sults are their own business and they may feel exposed or shamed if you discuss the results and the disappoint- ment
with everyone. Do by SALLY O’REILLY
terday brought a sense of relief,
For many I hope, yes- achievement
and
celebration. Woohoo! Full steam ahead, making work or college
ready to leave home, what- ever – it’s all good. But for some, there is mild to utter- ly devastating disappoint- ment. Here are some sugges-
tions on how best support a disappointed student, and how to cope if you are that student. Dear Parents / Guardi-
ans: 1: Try to remain calm.
Breathe. The next few days are going to continue to be fraught if your child (sor- ry to all 17/18/19 year old students for using the word ‘child’ -!!) is waiting on a
plans, getting
your best to allow the stu- dent to control who hears about their results and how they hear. 3: Try not to fast forward
– We can make reasonable assumptions about
third
level based on past CAO points, but we cannot as- sume. Your child now has an indicator, not a final answer. Have a plan to fill the time between now and CAO day – make sure it in- volves distraction and fun! 4: Remember - this is
about your child, not you. You will of course feel their disappointment, that’s natu- ral. You will be disappoint- ed for them, not “in” them. What they will need to hear is the word “for”, what they might hear is “in”. 5: Try to avoid rushing in
with solutions. The initial shock and disappointment will be experienced like a
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grief, and will need to be treated as such. If you know why they didn’t do well, now is absolutely not the time for “told-you-so”s. They’ll know that
themselves and
are probably already beat- ing themselves up about it. Allow time for the grief
to
hit and then space will come free for solutions. 6: Allow for the fact that
your child may turn to their peers for support more than to you, at least initially. This is normal, they’ve shared a very stressful year together, 9am-3.30pm, every day. It’s not personal, and so while it’s hard not to take it per- sonally, I appreciate that, it really is OK and not a re- flection on you or your par- enting abilities. Quite the contrary – you’ve success- fully taught them to seek support where they need it – a life skill that will stand to them forever! 7: Help your child (sor- ry again) research options. They may not be able
to
focus on this rationally in the beginning. If the results are a genuine shock then they will be working from a place of trauma and may
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not make good decisions. Remind them to take their time, and remind yourself not to panic. Dear Students: If you are
crushed, I’m sorry. When you feel able, consider these positive options: •
Take some time
to look after yourself, give yourself a chance to digest what’s happened. Read or catch up on Netflix - if only to avoid ruminating. •
direct entry courses, courses abroad, “backdoor cours- es”. These are options that you may not yet have con- sidered, but they are there, and they are valid options, even if they’re not what you originally wanted. There is no shame in opting for something you didn’t origi- nally plan for. None. •
Consider looking Talk to a career
guidance counselor – either the one(s) attached to your school or one of the many private Guidance Counsel- lors if you are in a position to pay for the service. •
Enlist the help
of friends who have expe- rienced similar let downs and who have managed to reframe Now is
their experience. a
great
source resilient role models! •
Script check. You
are entitled to check your exam scripts – if you believe there was an error or that you deserved a better mark it is worth using this service. •
Google alterna- tive courses, post-leaving- cert courses, new courses, time to
for and taking a job for a year, even if it’s not in your ideal sphere. You may need time out. A job, the respon- sibility that goes with it, the wages, the colleagues – all of these things can boost our confidence and may indeed mean that this time next year you are in a much better and more empow- ered position that now to make choices. •
Remember this:
Almost half of school leav- ers (47%) would not choose the same post-school path- way if they could choose again either completely or ‘to some extent’. That’s a LOT of people. •
there are second round of- fers. •
If you did get a
place but feel unsure about taking it up, consider de- ferral – visit the college if
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on the menu but they may be drowning in ¬calorific dressing. Ask for ¬dress- ing on the side. Or, better still, stick to -balsamic vin- egar.
16 Be alcohol savvy “The
empty calories
in ¬alcohol don’t satisfy your appetite and make you more likely to make bad choices,” 17 Snack right
In bars, nibble on olives
rather than peanuts. Each one only has three ¬calo- ries, compared to peanuts, which have 150 calories in a small handful. 18 Watch out during
cocktail hour That pina colada con-
tains more calories than a Big Mac, so swap cream- based cocktails for a cool Martini instead.
19 Steer clear of free pour measures Many bars and ¬res-
taurants abroad don’t have
measures
¬standard optic for spirits like
we do here. 20 Use the pool “While
it’s important
to rest and ¬rejuvenate, work in a bit of ¬exercise to burn off those calories.
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you’re unsure – listen to your gut. While your parent might like the sound of a course, you might not. It’s your life. •
Consider repeat-
ing the leaving cert. The “R” word strikes dread into the hearts of many, I know – I’ve literally been there. And I turned out OK!(??!!;)) •
of sleep and exercise
Getting plenty will
always help you deal with stress better too #TipFor- Life •
about someone
Keep talking how you feel to you trust (who
isn’t dramatic (!!)). If you don’t know anyone person- ally, please feel OK about contacting a professional person, a counsellor, a guid- ance counsellor, a psycho- therapist or a psychologist. It’s why we’re here! •
Avoid drugs Remember that
and alcohol. Seriously. It’s tempting I know. But con- sider the fact that alcohol is a depressant and drugs won’t solve your actual di- lemma. •
Have an honest
look at why your results were poor – this will stand to you whether you end up in college, if you repeat or
if you decide to go straight to work. The trick is to ac- knowledge the things that you are/were
for, and resolve to do them differently the
responsible next
time
you are faced with a similar challenge. (Beating your- self need not be part of this process - there’s nothing in that for you.) So this might mean spending less time on Facebook, Instagram or gaming. But it will be worth it. Always think of the pay- off for future you, and the fact that you have choices. Believe that you will get
through this, it may not be as originally planned, but you will find a solution. So well done again and
see you in two weeks! Sally O’Reilly is a Psycholo-
gist, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor in private practice in East Cork with twenty years’ full time experience. She has a special interest in working with teenagers and writes for FamilyFriendly- HQ,
Voiceboks.com, The Good Men Project as well as her own website
sal-
lyoreilly.com. For more info on the above or related top- ics contact her through her site, on 0872338804 or on Twitter @psychosal.
Tel: 021 463 8000 • Email:
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