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OUR ESSENCE SELF by Lynda Aldorisio


do. The experience of worth dissolves limiting thoughts as to whether you are lovable and frees enormous amounts of space for creativity.


Here are some of the benefits that will result from connecting and coming from your Essence Self. One, your agreements will


become


If you look up “Essence” in the dictionary, you will find: “The individual, real, or ultimate nature” “The most important ingredient; the crucial element” “The inherent, unchanging fundamental nature”


“The characteristic or intrinsic feature which determines its identity” “A perfect or complete form of something”


In my work as a life coach and astrologist, I continually come across people dealing with the same issues: an inability to value themselves or recognize their own authority, a constant seeking of approval from others, and no idea of how to truly love themselves.


I wrote this article for you, the reader, to experience a


loving connection with yourself and to liberate you from those habitual thoughts of “…am I worthy, valuable, and lovable.” My intention is to provide an actual experience, as if we were doing a private session together. To have this experience, I invite you to do more than just read the words. Reading can give you an intellectual understanding, but that is not the same as a life changing experience. That kind of experience requires you to do more than read. I trust that you will be touched by these words and be open to the possibility that they can directly create a new way of perceiving. My request is that you read the words out loud and listen to what you are saying and then listen to the answers that come through.


Do you feel valuable? Where does your worth


come from? In relationships, so often we think that the other person is the source of our value or approval. This is a huge issue for many. If you truly are the source of your own value and approval,


then you feel in your bones that your being has worth separate from anything you do, or don’t do. You rest and act from an ongoing loving connection with yourself that flows regardless of what others say or


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clearer. When we make and keep agreements that we truly desire and feel good about, it creates trust in ourselves and in others. Two, you will be able to create healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries are essential for us to discern between our needs and the needs of others. They also help us to identify and enhance our own uniqueness and the uniqueness of every individual in our lives. And finally, this connection helps us maintain Presence. When we are in Presence, we stay in touch with our current body sensations, emotions, thoughts, and impulses. From this space, we have a clearer grasp on what’s true in the moment. Tapping in to our Essence Self becomes the dominant connection in our lives. When you source your own approval you stand in authenticity and make that more important than anyone else’s responses. You really get that you have little or no control over whether people like or dislike your choices. What feels true is we are searching and yearning for a


feeling of validation. However, essentially, no outer source can truly give us what we think we need to satisfy this feeling. Even if we receive approval, it doesn’t settle the feeling since it wasn’t generated from within us. The only way to source this is from inside. How do you increase your ability to live from your essence self and source your own worth, love, approval and experiences? We begin by noticing what is happening within us. We become authentically engaged with ourselves and become willing to embrace “what is” really true for us. We begin the process of consciously listening to ourselves. It is our internal whole-body listening that gives us the


capacity to live a life that truly nourishes us. It is so important to acknowledge and be present to what is actually occurring rather than over-riding or eroding our body-wisdom. Losing connection with ourselves and what we are really feeling happens because our actions are often driven by other factors. These factors include our business life, family, the need to take care of others, and the belief that we need to do what is expected of us. Our self-perception is tied to “what others think of us” so we try to “fit in,” “do it right,” or “be all things to all people.” Unfortunately this comes at a great cost to our overall wellbeing and joy. The extent to which we allow ourselves to be informed


by what is happening internally and to which we honor our truth is the extent to which we will be a gift to ourselves and to others. Our personal fulfillment and relationships thrive and depend on us living an authentic expression of our essence self. The more we live from our essence self, the more whole we are, the more we are present and available. In order to fully be


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