“I feel like this is maybe how it is with most people attempting a
crossing. We’re cooped up together and there’s nowhere to go and sometimes the going is uncomfortable, so we get irritable. It’s probably more about what’s going on in our own heads, more about one’s self than it is about the other person.” — Brian
driving me crazy and eating away at my conscious was wondering if I had made a terrible decision leaving my life in Canada, family and friends, any kind of work or any sort of concrete plan for the future. Leaving bills with destination and return dates unknown drove me crazy within. One other thing that drove me crazy was your extremely loud eating. Brian: Extremely loud eating?? Kelly: Yeah. It wouldn’t drive me
crazy all the time. But sometimes. You like to slurp up your grapefruit and make sure that you get all the juice. I don’t really like eggs and when you cook them and eat them incredibly loudly, I dealt with it. It’s you and you’re not going to change because of something that I say. Brian: I don’t know, I’m going to be
really self conscious about my eating now.
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it’s fine. It’s kind of like we we’re an old married couple. We did take on those personas… Brian: …with little ways that we
get irritated with one another, despite all our best intentions. But I guess I feel like we’ve had some great conversations in the past where we’ve said, “This is what’s going on with me and this is why I’m getting irritated here and I’m sorry and why are you irritated?” I feel like this is maybe how it is
with most people attempting a crossing. We’re cooped up together and there’s nowhere to go and sometimes the going is uncomfortable, so we get irritable. It’s probably more about what’s going on in our own heads, more about one’s self than it is about the other person. But, for the most part, I really enjoyed spending time with you and I think you’re an amazing person. I’m happy that you’ve joined my trip and I hope you feel the same. I think if we’re a little more open in our conversations, and I don’t hold back some of the reasons I feel irritated, then things would better in the future. Kelly: Well sometimes I’m like that as well, because it seems as if there’s
something I can’t change or maybe it’s because it’s my own preferences. I would prefer things to be a certain way, but this is your boat. But then I’m living on your boat and we’re like roommates… thoughts just go back and forth and it doesn’t seem worth mentioning. That’s sometimes why I don’t mention issues. Brian: I feel like communication
always helps. Kelly: I’m not a very good communicator. I’ve been told that. Brian: I’ve been told this as well. Kelly: Great. We’re two crappy communicators on a boat together for 29 days! I think that next time it would be better not to go to sea for so long on such a whim. A month after we had first talked we went to sea for a month, and I had two weeks to pack up my life. Next time I do something like this I would like to do a lot more planning, but we didn’t really get the chance. That would help. Brian: Thanks for having this conversation with me. Kelly: No problem.
Kayak has been sailing the
Marquesan Islands for a month now. We love it here. The islands are beautiful, the sailing is great, and the people have hearts the size of the giant pomplemousse (grapefruit) that they give away. As for the crew of “S/V Kayak,” our relationship continues to evolve in these strange circumstances we find ourselves, in a foreign land and in close proximity with one another with little reprieve. Our relationship is more complex than we could have previously imagined. Sometimes we are the best of friends and sometimes we just want to get away from one another. But so much has been shared between us already; we know things about one another that we haven’t shared with anyone else. It feels like we are living inside some strange social experiment, the resulting concoction something that could never be brewed upon the land, where one has the luxury of putting up barriers between oneself and other people.
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