Banish emotional clutter!
When my brother was in his late teen he would go to bed at night with a maths text book under his arm, which he would study avidly until the early hours of the morning. His unusual choice of bedtime reading reflected his passion for a subject he would later study at University, and use to launch his career.
Imagine my surprise then, when he confided in me recently that he hadn’t looked at a maths book for years, and that he didn’t intend to do so in the future. There was no hint of regret – instead he seemed accepting of the fact that his love affair with maths was over, and that now was the time to do something different.
Many of us give our homes a good clean and clear out at least once a year, but what we may not realise is that our own lives need a periodic clear out too, to get rid of damaging spiritual or emotional clutter that might cause us stress or unhappiness, and prevent us from making the most of our lives.
Clutter is anything that we no longer have a use for, that we no longer like or love, or that has become totally disorganised. Because our lives are constantly changing, new experiences, interests, people and ideas may enter whilst others may leave. To make room for the new things, it’s important to have an occasional clear out of the old that we no longer have a use for.
We all experience negative feelings from time to time – possibly feelings of low self-esteem, failure, sadness, loneliness or worry that could be associated with events from our past. If we don’t deal with these feelings they could fester and grow, and become destructive to
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our wellbeing and our ability to move forward. We must get rid of useless emotional clutter that won’t make room for happy thoughts and feelings.
Think back over the past year or two. Identify the most painful experience you’ve had. What was the event or mistake that led to it? When you think of this today, what feelings does it trigger in you? If the memory still evokes negative emotions get rid of them, by first acknowledging that this thing happened, forgive yourself for any part you played in the event, and finally release it from your heart and your mind.
In ridding ourselves of our emotional clutter, no matter how hard this may seem, the outcome is usually bright. We enjoy more energy, a renewed enthusiasm and zest for life, clearer priorities, and a better understanding of ourselves, and what is important to us as we move on to the next stage of our lives. By Debbie Singh-Bhatti
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