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Individually and collectively, we have long endured a troubled relationship to love. Applying intention, attention and the science of epigenetics we can heal our internal access to love via the limbic imprint – conscious evolution in loving, for ourselves and future generations.

by Nicole Moore

WE, AS A SPECIES HAVE the ability to consciously evolve. We can meet the challenge of living in awareness of our interconnection, repairing the damage we have done to our planet and to ourselves as the nervous system, the feeling apparatus, of this being called Earth. We have the ability to gift ourselves and future generations with a blueprint of feeling totally safe, deeply loved, full of potential and completely connected... The most well known teacher of our

time had a simple message – ‘Love one another’ – but HOW? That requires a huge amount of trust. Another great teacher said, “Don’t be attached. Accept what comes. Examine what is...” That would also require trust, trust in whatever outcome being okay, trust in the world being safe to be in, as we are letting go. Easier said than done – because of the way we are imprinted as we enter the world. My story is that I was a vbac (Vaginal

Birth After Caesarean) baby. Mum was happy with this, feeling empowered after the difficulties of her first birth. After post natal depression, her next pregnancy with me had an anxious theme. The labour was induced and Mum was told not to breastfeed, that the hormones would be disruptive. So she ignored my cries, kept her breasts covered and slowly, sadly, I got the message. My needs weren’t important, love is unreliable, and that I was not important, or worthy of love. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for Mum. She was just doing what she’d been told was best. In 1974, there was no internet and women didn’t question doctors’ orders. So for baby Me, this primal experience of deep longing, craving love, wanting something outside

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of myself for validation, was hardwired into the limbic system of my brain – the part that governs the emotional body, perceptual filters, the very lenses through which we see the world – and it has influenced my life ever since. Masculine unavailability imprinted as a

norm while I missed my father throughout childhood. As a young adult with low self- esteem and a ‘longing habit’ – my limbic imprint in action – all kinds of situations manifested where this melancholia could thrive! Travelling the world, far from family, I perpetuated this cycle for years. Long distance relationships, where I could legitimately pine and long for love, were a personal specialty! Through many years of seeking, I tried

to address my longing for affirmation outside of myself, tried to find my place in the sun, to accept love and feel safe to be me. And I did! I found a way to work beyond the confines of my neural constructs, the habits of my mind, and since that time, everything has shifted. I’m happy to share my gifts and ideas with the world, stretch all the boundaries of my previous ‘comfort zones’. And I allow a flow of love like never before. Victory! Just like my vbac birth. Looking within any life story

you find patterns, ways of being that seem to appear time and time again. Familiar archetypes, recurrent themes, behavioural and emotional tendencies are easily linked to events and circumstances in the formative, primal period – your conception, gestation, birth and early years. Over 30 years of research in pre and peri natal psychology (by Dr S William Emerson,

David Chamberlain, Thomas Verny, etc.) show us there are very clear correlations. In ‘Windows to the Womb’ David

Chamberlain brings our attention to the millions of nerve connections firing throughout gestation, that double at birth, and again double in the early months of life. However, by age one, the removal of these connections rapidly outpaces the growth; so by age 12 the average child operates on a mere 350 million neuronal connections that have been well tested and deemed necessary by the body. This is the new science of epigenetics in action – the way our environments and cultures form personalities, perceptual filters and behavioural tendencies. It explains how musical geniuses often come from parents who are musicians. Their tiny brains are steeped in music from conception on; nerve connections for the language of music are constantly stimulated, hence remaining strong throughout life, increasing their capacity for musical brilliance. So it is with love. We can have an

increased or decreased ability to give and receive love due to the experiences in our formative period. Embryologists have defined week 9 of gestation as the starting point for the ‘stunning choreography’ of millions of neurons firing, each with a full load of genes, producing an array of chemicals including the ‘love hormone’ oxytocin. The ability to produce oxytocin later

in life is determined by our relationship to it in the formative period, which is largely dependent on the state of our mother’s well-being, her feelings about the

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