SIMPLE STEPS REAL CHANGE MAGAZINE
male-pattern baldness like your father, it is passed on genetically. It lives in our minds. It is reinforced through conditioning during childhood, and it becomes, if unchecked, the dominant force for most in adulthood.
As a dominant feature in your life, struggle manipulates, controls, bullies and moves you into a corner where the pain gets so great that you reach for outlets that numb the pain it causes.
Perhaps you turn to alcohol, drugs, food, shopping, abusive relationships. No matter. They are only symptoms. They are features of someone who is living with emotional pain. Someone who is struggling. Someone who has been conditioned to believe that life is a struggle because they believe “that’s just the way it is.”
Buying into that oh-so-negative belief and being brainwashed to act it out through a lifetime is what needs to be eliminated. We do this through emotional healing. This is what our world needs now. ‘Struggle mentality’ is a disease of the mind. It is also the cause of most physical illnesses. In truth, struggle, which is fueled by negative thought patterns, is the #1 addiction of the human race.
In fact, we will “go out on a limb” and say that struggle is the ONLY addiction of the human race. All of the “acting out” we experience is simply symptomatic of struggle.
We explained how struggle is an addiction. We will now go one step further and define it as fear. And what is fear? Fear is the absence of love. Our approach to ending all addictions is simple. Love is the solution. As we said, when there is an absence of love, there is fear.
Fear has many faces. We have names for these faces. We call them ‘worry,’
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‘anxiety,’ ‘depression,’ ‘despair,’ ‘anger,’ ‘rage.’ Whether you wear these faces often, sometimes, infrequently is not what’s
whether or not you experience them to such a degree that the faces of fear adversely affect the quality of your life.
important. What matters is
For far too many of us, the quality of our lives is diminished to excessively low levels because of our addiction to struggle. The simple solution is love. More specifically, it is self-love that will free you from the shackles of struggle and emotional pain.
It is important that you have some tools to assist you to deal with your ongoing addiction to struggle. Here are some ways to begin to end the bout of “struggleholism.” Take a deep breath! Have hope! Believe!
1. Become aware of how struggle influences your life. Create a written inventory of the areas of your life e.g. career, finances, health, relationships, spirituality where struggle is a controlling force.
2. Look at your “inventory of struggle.” Now ask yourself, “What purpose does struggle in this area of my life serve?” Listen for the answer. It may surprise you!
3. Create a mental picture of, and then write down, how you want your life to look. Be very clear. Inject feeling and emotion. It’s your life and your movie and you’re in charge of the script. Now, read this new positive story when you wake up in the morning and before you go to bed at night. Do this for 21 days and notice if you feel the need to struggle start to ease up.
4. Start focusing on you more. Companions of struggle are self- loathing, self-depreciating, martyrs and “angry-givers.” Remember, only through self-love can we end the
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