SIMPLE STEPS REAL CHANGE MAGAZINE
STEP AWAY FROM THE RUNAWAY TRAIN
How to Maintain a Loving Relationship
BY: MARILYN HOUGH, LMFT &
CHUCK SCHMITT, LMFT Y
ou’ve just returned home after a lovely day with your partner...walking on the beach, lively conversation, a delicious meal.
laughing and being playful with one another, something triggers one of you and a disagreement begins. How could this be happening? It’s going to ruin the entire day! Can I stop the progression into the dark abyss before it gets out of control? Absolutely.
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When did this happen... how did we let negative interactions and disappointments have the power to turn into big overshadowing events? Somehow we have learned to be more comfortable focusing on what isn’t working in our life... and what could go wrong... rather than expecting life to remain positive and wonderful. We can’t tell you the countless times things are going well for a client and they say: I’m
just waiting for the other shoe to drop! Really? Well, if that’s what you are looking for and expecting, that is exactly what you are going to get!
There are a couple key ideas that need to be established in order to change spiral.
this downward
First, people have an internal frame of reference or set point, like a thermostat. If you
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