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the “right” thing, always performing to make others approve of us. But this isn’t love. You know this already. You know what it’s like to follow the rules in your mind and then still feel empty. And you know what it feels like to be joyous and abundant on the inside. This is love. Anything that feels empty, or makes your feel angry, frustrated, or judgmental isn’t love. When you feel negativity, your head is your guide. But when you allow love to take over, you feel abundant and alive!


The family unit tends to perpetuate the false definition of love. When you try to do everything right for your family, when you hide your voice, and when you try to be the “best mom,” you shut down to love and your inner guidance.


Try this on for example: You realize that something is missing in your life. You have a creative itch to do something. You have no idea what that “something” is, but feel a lack you can’t quite describe. The first step would be to check in with your feelings and allow them to be your guide, asking, “What would love look like in my life?” However, because you live by the false belief of what society says love is, you say to your- self, “I don’t have time to take care of myself! I have to get the kids up, make them breakfast, get them to school, go to work, take them to soc- cer practice, do laundry, cook dinner, be my hubby’s sex kitten…there isn’t enough time for me!”


You believe love is guiding you to deny yourself, but it’s not. This is your head talking to you, not love. You’re living your life in fear, not listening to your heart. And the next thing you know, your family is living just like you: disconnected from their inner guidance, too.


Allowing love to be your guide means to step out of the old way of being, letting go of societal program- ming. By asking yourself, “What would real love look like in my life?” you open up to allow love to be your guide.


Let’s take a look at what real love would look like. You probably have many moments in the day when you feel some sort of negativity. You may recognize this from being tired. You may hear yourself have a negative conversation in your mind or with a friend. Or maybe you hear yourself harping at your spouse or kids. Now ask yourself, “What would real love look like?”


As you check in with yourself, you realize that you are tired because you haven’t given yourself some rest. You’ve been running yourself ragged. When you ask yourself what would real love look like with this particular situation, you realize that you haven’t been asking for help. You’ve been buying into that old programming again that says, “Mom has to make everyone else happy and not ask for help.” To step into love, allowing it to be the guide, you know without a doubt that it’s time to ask for help.


Here’s where it gets tricky. You KNOW you need to ask your hubby for help. But you find yourself afraid. As you check in with yourself, you realize that you have a fear that if you do, your hubby will be mad at you. Your fear is the signal that you’re living from your head again. Trust and know that if love is guiding you to ask for help then THIS is the loving thing to do, and that as you hold this vibration of love, love will show up for you.


Your hubby may resist you at first. That’s because he’s been living by the old societal belief about love, too. Recognize this. Know that if he creates any resistance, he’s not sure what to do. Explain to him this new definition of love. Let him know that as he allows real love to be his guide, he will feel more abundant and alive, too.


As you create this kind of communi- cation in your own life and with the ones you love, you let go of the old false belief about love and open up to real love. And the more you trust love as your inner guide, you raise your vibration and attract more joy and abundance to all areas of your life.


Thoughts for Your Journey


In what areas of your life are you buying into the old societal definition of love?


What would your life look like if you allowed real love to be your guide?


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