Issue 10 March 2011
Quantum
All of this was incongruent with the easier and softer ways of my craft of effortless healing. I knew something was wrong; I just did not know what it was, except that there was that ‘not enough time’ belief again! I gradually became aware that in this instance I was being given an opportunity to explore how a good intention can go wrong. Healing had turned into an addiction. My desire to ‘heal others as fast as I can’ had entrapped me. I gained a clear realisation how any desire, no matter how well intentioned, can turn into an addiction if it is not given boundaries.
The truth is that we all are trapped in different kinds of addictions in ways that we fail to recognise as we go about navigating our ‘ordinary’ reality. There are probably only a few of us who have never experienced addictive behaviours or beliefs–who have never felt a loss of control. Acknowledging our weakness is the first step to regaining control. The awareness of darkness can serve to shake us up, to wake up our unconsciousness, to lift us above our fears and encourage us to act in a much wiser way.
Then we will eventually come to see that all addictions are alike, both the ‘ill intended’ and ‘well intended’ ones. The desire to take another drink is the same as the desire to devour another pint of ice cream, to get another fix, to bite your nails, to become rich, to have sex with yet another partner, to hold onto a relationship no matter what the consequence, or to heal the world at any cost. Every desire at its core has a potential to turn either into a dream come true or a disaster (as in an addiction) because it can be claimed either by the dark or the light.
The key to your freedom lies in yourself. There is nothing wrong with an underlying desire. What matters is to remain connected to the essence of your behaviour and to sense if it is causing you to lose energy and control.
With time and experience I learned that the path of entrapment has its own structure and even has an order. Darkness has the ears for our thoughts and an eye for our vulnerabilities. It has the capacity to envelop us in confusion, feed our
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hankering for the objects of our desires, and steal our life force and energy. This knowledge is now my shield as I help my clients and myself retrace our steps back to wellness and freedom from the gripping hold of addictions. You can too.
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Notice an addictive behaviour or some aspect of your life that you have lost control over. Acknowledge that you no longer have clear boundaries around it. If you are not sure what exactly is causing you problems, ask your family or friends. They will be happy to oblige!
Do not be ashamed or embarrassed. Remember you are not in full control because some other force is part of the equation. Acknowledge that you have been entrapped. Acknowledge that this state is not entirely your fault.
Figure out what belief or contract/agreement with yourself made you vulnerable. Do not judge it or make it wrong. Beliefs are always half-truths.
If you feel that you are somehow less of a person, less worthy, less attractive, less lovable, less capable, less full of energy than everyone else around you, it is at least partly because the forces behind your addictions are robbing you of your energy and life force. You will need to take all this energy back.
Break and rewrite any old agreements or redefine old beliefs. Most likely you do not need to abandon your desires; you simply need to add a clause that creates a boundary: ‘I still want this, but not at such a cost’. Remember this reframing of the situation, as it is important.
Of course, this is just a quick run down of the basic steps for your daily practice of Energy Intelligence. Even when you address energetic forces, some chronic addictions may be hard to heal on your own and may need a skilled intervention. Seek assistance from a professional health care practitioner. You also can learn more about the powerful universal principles of energy recovery so crucial for dealing with any form of addictive behaviour in Energetic Boundaries: The New Paradigm of Effortless Healing.*
*For more about the book and Yuliya Cohen, visit
www.healingwithouteffort.com
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