‘KINDFULNESS’


There is one gift worth giving yourself this year and it is a gift that keeps on giving: treat yourself with compassion


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indfulness is mindfulness’s more compassionate sister, it means being consciously kind to others and yourself. Kindfulness incorporates two important things: being kind to


yourself and others; and mindfulness where you bring the busy mind back to the present moment in a non-judgemental way.


I have written in this column before about the benefits of mindfulness. Kindfulness can also help us to change the negative voice in our head so it becomes calming and supportive rather than critical and undermining. This will give us the space to become aware of our own personal patterns of self-criticisms and unhelpful beliefs. Taking a step back to observe will stop us getting lost in our negative thoughts and will be replaced with a friendly, supportive voice. As with mindfulness, this will take practice, but building moments of awareness into your day will give you a boost.


Many of our clients at BeCalmed use their time with us to help support this process as they realise the importance of being kind to themselves. They have given themselves


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permission to stop, allowing their body and mind to relax.


Let us start 2020 by accepting that we are a work in progress and not perfect. Focusing on what is wrong with us whilst waiting for the final goal to be achieved will waste the valuable time you have right now. This approach can boost motivation making you more likely to achieve the goals you are setting yourself this year. So today try and accept who you are and whatever comes your way, then take a moment to notice how you feel. Making the change to ‘Kindfulness’ will help boost your happiness, reduce stress and is known to be one of the most psychologically liberating things you can do.


So, if you want to have someone in your life who always has your best interests at heart, accepts you for who you are and helps you reach your full potential, look no further than yourself.


By Carol ine Hurley I.I.H.H.T. ART(Reg) BECALMED WELLBEING AND MEDI SPA


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