ARTICLE Multi-dimensional Re-shaping in
Relationships by Ric Weinman
Whenever two people are interacting, they naturally ‘shape’ themselves to each other to facilitate communication. At the most obvious level, this is seen in body language. Even if the two people are defensive or blocked in relation to each other, their bodies still form physical positions and postures that are manifested in relation to the other person. In expressing these positions in relation to some- one else, we literally change our shape, but we do this more than just physically. We re-shape ourselves emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, and we do this on deeper dimensional levels as well (up to the 6th dimension). Thus, you may feel almost as if you become a different person—even with a different posture—when you are with one person versus another.
This is, of course, completely natural. But when we are in long-term relationships, the shape we acquire in relation to the other person can easily become so habit- ual that we get stuck in that shape. Then some of it carries over into our interac- tions with other people as well. We may even forget that we can have other shapes and start to experience that shape as self. Of course, this can happen in short-term relationships as well, or even in non-relationship situations, such as in workplaces, where you spend a large amount of time with the same person. A catch phrase for this is that you have ‘acquired a frozen shape’.
Perhaps you become aware that something is off and you start to work on the ‘stuff’ you feel in that shape. You becoming clearer and clearer, but since it is natural to shape yourself to those you interact with, your shape itself doesn’t really change so long as you are continually interacting with the same person as before.
What many people do to get out of the feeling of stuckness that a frozen shape can create, is to find someone else to shape themselves to, which typically means having an affair. Other people will simply break off the relationship, saying they feel stuck or smothered in it (even if the other person is not the smothering type).
For those on a spiritual path, there is another option: Ascension!!
Just joking. The spiritual option is having a spiritual practice that has enough impact on your physical and emotional consciousness to re-shape you to its own energetic, which would presumably be a much clearer, more centered one than what you normally live in. Then, however you shape yourself to your partner, you don’t get entirely frozen there, because you keep shifting back to a more neutral shape whenever you meditate. And if you are not frozen in relation to the other
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