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HOW SOON CAN THE FUN RESUME? Several factors come into play when determining how long a woman should wait after giving birth before having sex. In a straightforward natural birth situation, where there were no complications, four to six weeks should be enough time for your body to recover completely – for your cervix to close, for any minor lacerations to heal, and for your post delivery bleeding to stop. If an episiotomy (a surgical cut in the area between the vagina and the anus, or the perineum) was part
of the
birth, you need to wait until it’s completely healed. This should take no longer than six weeks, but if you’re unsure, ask your gynaecologist to examine you before you try having sex. And when you do have, take it very slowly, use a lubricant, and be
on top so you can control the degree of penetration. If you had a caesarean section, bear in mind that this is major surgery. Doctors recommend a minimum of six weeks, giving you time to heal.
I DON’T FEEL LIKE IT It’s not unusual for a woman not to feel like having sex either in the third trimester or after the birth of her baby. She is, after all, undergoing some huge physical changes; and, after the birth, she’ll be coping with profound physical demands too, including continuing hormonal upheaval, interrupted sleep and the energy required for breastfeeding. She may also simply need time to adjust to her post-birth body. Emotionally too,
there are
new demands. “As you take on new roles as parents, your roles as lovers can sometimes fall by
the wayside,” says Catriona. During these periods of change, you and your partner need to communicate openly and honestly about your desires and feelings. “If you don’t feel like sex at all for a prolonged period, chat to your doctor or a psychologist about it, as it may be a sign of postpartum depression,” Catriona advises. There could also be physical reasons why you’re not settling
back into sex after your baby’s birth. If you continue bleeding for longer than four weeks, if you have a discharge with an unpleasant smell, or if sex continues to be uncomfortable or painful in spite of all the care you’re taking, see your doctor. “But generally any of sort
sexual activity is fine,” Catriona says. “Just take it slowly and gently, and make sure you feel comfortable.” YP
TIPS FOR POST-BIRTH SEX
Take birth control. It’s possible to fall pregnant again immediately after the birth of your baby, regardless of whether you’ve had a period or are breastfeeding. Speak to your doctor about birth control that is breastfeeding safe. Don’t rush. Do only what feels comfortable.
Use lubrication. A water soluble lubricant is the answer.
Breastfeeding can result in low oestrogen levels, which can in turn result in vaginal dryness. Eat healthily and exercise. Even a brisk daily walk around the block with your baby in a pram is enough to start with. Communicate, communicate, communicate. This is a time of upheaval for both you and your partner – you need talk about your desires.
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