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too much and it’s easier to do nothing at all. Some- times that’s OK, but when my powerless times match up with times where I really need to be powerful, I ask myself a simple question: “What would KitKat do?” I know instantly what she would do and how she would do it. So I write myself a list of all the things she would do in my situation, I start at the top and I work my way down the list. Just by asking myself that one question I call my Inner Heroine to my side and she helps me to cut through all the layers of doubt and whatever else is stopping me from taking action. I become my most powerful self and I move mountains.

So here’s what you need to do if you want to tap into your own most powerful self:

1. Remind yourself of your own Inner Heroine. What’s her name? When have you called on her in the past, and how has she helped you?

2. Think of a situation where you need to be more powerful and ask yourself what your Inner Hero- ine would do in that situation.

3. List all the things your Inner Heroine would do – then go do them, one at a time.

I know, it sounds too easy doesn’t it? Well I’ve got news for you – it is. By and large, life is difficult be- cause we make it difficult. There’s an ancient Chinese proverb that I love that says “the path is smooth. Why do you throw rocks in your way?” I take that to mean that the only person that really makes life difficult for me, is me. And one of the ways I do that is by keep- ing KitKat hidden rather than having her up front and central, directing the traffic.

Because the thing about KitKat, and it’ll be the same with your Inner Heroine, is that she has no time or en- ergy for self-doubt, fear, guilt, insecurity or any of the other things that stop us from claiming our own power. In fact, I don’t think that our Inner Heroines know that those things exist. And I think that frightens us.

Marianne Williamson, in her wonderful book “A Return to Love”, says this: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that


most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing en- lightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I think she’s right. I think we shy away from unleashing our true power and potential because we’re scared of the consequences – we won’t be like everyone else and things will happen as a result. What Marianne Wil- liamson calls your light, I’ve chosen to call your Inner Heroine, but it’s the same thing really and you have it within you right now. You have within you the capacity to do endless good and make a real, valid contribution to our World.

If your Inner Heroine were given the opportunity to make a difference, what would she do? ■

Cathy Dean is a fortysomething woman who has experienced a fair few of the highs and the lows that life can throw at her and her mission is to help other fortysomething women, just like you, to learn to know, love and understand yourself so that you can put aside your fears and step out into the sunlight where you belong. She is a professionally qualified coach and trainer with a 25 year career in personal development behind her and she loves her work.

Because life is a journey of discovery and rediscov- ery, she loves to help women who have lost sight of who they are and why they are here. Her greatest passion is to see women take positive steps toward their own confident and personally fulfilling present and future lives.

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