aside knowing that the universe would take care of it, and sat back and waited for him to arrive. A few weeks later he did. The dream comes true. Or does it? The man who arrived was VERY tall,
over 2 metres (6’7” actually). Almost too tall…yeah, she realised she hadn’t put an upper limit on the height thing. Oops. But hey, it wasn’t a deal breaker; so on she went down the list to the second criterion. He was a gifted guitar player and was super excited about writing songs with her, and happy to perform them around town together. Perfect! Check. Conversation flowed between them
like a gently flowing river. Not hurried, not frantic or exhausting. Just deeply relaxing in a very pleasurable way, and they were never short of things to talk about. Perfect. Check. His temperament was very sweet. He
was such a kind soul that she couldn’t imagine him ever hurting a flea, let alone her. He treated her so well…in fact he seemed to almost have a sixth sense
about how, as a woman, she wanted to be treated. He made her feel special, he listened to her, he respected her and never talked down to her or tried to control her like those other ‘macho’ guys she’d known before. Perfect. Check. He did indeed seem to understand
and respect her femininity extremely well; so that must mean he was in touch with the feminine side of his nature, right? This was definitely her dream man. They got married. For seven years they
were very happy. Or so she thought. Then he confessed that he’d actually been feeling suicidal. For some time. As he couldn’t bear it any more, he finally decided to tell her the truth.
THE TRUTH REVEALED He was feeling suicidal because he was transgender. He really wanted to transition his gender, to become a woman, and he didn’t know how to tell her. He almost thought it would be easier to end his life than to burst
her bubble. He knew he’d lied to her… by omission at least. He’d never told her about his true inner feelings or just how ‘in touch’ with his feminine nature he really was. And he knew she’d be devastated. She didn’t get angry. She actually
did her best to support him in his transition. She loved him through it until he became a she. They tried to stay together, but in the end they couldn’t make it work. Her grief at losing her ‘dream man’
was deep and wide and unspeakably painful. I met her during the time she was
supporting her husband’s gender transition. One day, when we were hanging out, she told me about her ‘dream man’ manifestation list. She said she realised that she’d not fully thought through exactly what those words ‘in touch with his feminine side’ could really mean. Was the universe playing a trick on her? Laughing at her expense?
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