Here’s an example from my own life About ten years ago, while going through a marriage meltdown, I put myself through hell with anger and blame and shame, by telling myself that my husband had betrayed me.


Two things helped me pull out of the nose dive The first was was Katie’s four questions. By doing ‘the work’ I saw the lens I was looking through didn’t serve me and found another perspective that was actually truer and far more empowering. In this case, instead of my lightning


bolt lenses: “My husband betrayed me” I tried on a few reverse perspectives such as, “I have betrayed him”. Then I tried on “My husband hasn’t betrayed me”, and I also tried on “I have betrayed myself”. (Actually all of these lenses are true from a higher perspective but I wasn’t quite ready to admit that to myself at the time.)


The other thing that helped me was hand analysis because this put everything into the perspective of my soul’s agenda. For example, I wouldn’t be able to share this story with you right now if I hadn’t ridden the storm and come out to tell the tale.


So how did I betray myself? I still remember the first incident as


starkly as the landscape that caused it, which is why returning to Brisbane this July is going to include a sacred pilgrimage. While there I plan to recover a crucial piece of my soul left behind at the Glasshouse Mountains nearly 20 years ago.


What happened? We were sailing around the world


and were moored in Redcliffe for a few weeks for boat repairs. While there, I became mesmerised by the only geological blip on the horizon. The mystical Glasshouse Mountains.


longer. I’ll be back in half an hour.” But I didn’t. Result was I felt deeply frustrated for not getting the shots. I didn’t realise it at the time but this was the first step down a gradual slippery slope of putting my own wants and projects on hold in the hopes of keeping the relationship. In fact, the opposite was true. I was no longer living the fiery, self possessed side of myself that he had been attracted to in the first place.


What has this to do with creating your own reality and storm-tinted specs? If we stay with the storm-tinted specs we never get to see the miracle of how life happens for us, not to us. Usually it is only in retrospect that we


realise that what we thought was the worst thing that could ever happen turns out to be a blessing in disguise. If we switch our storm-tinted specs for rosier ones and expect miracles, this is what we get.


If something bad happens to you, always look for the hidden opportunity. Ask, “How is this helping me rather than hindering me?” Obstacles are really growth opportunities in disguise.


Whenever we set an intention or goal


The process helped me own up to something that I instantly knew to be truer: that I had in fact betrayed myself over the years and his behaviour was an honest mirror of my own self betrayal.


Seeing this put me back in the driver’s seat of my own life. It not only freed me from the downward spiral of blame and shame, I could so easily have made my life an absolute misery and attracted all sorts of negative experiences into my life as a result. Fortunately I didn’t choose to stay with those stormy lenses.


we are immediately given the next step. If it’s a big step we tend to think the step is a wall or a barrier rather than what it it really is: a stepping stone or a rapid growth experience. Ask yourself, “How is the universe


I wanted to visit this startling rock formation and photograph it at sunrise, which is the magical hour for taking photos. We decided to rent a car overnight and go and camp there for the sole purpose of my getting my pics. In the morning, as I was climbing out of the tent, Peter, who was my Swiss boyfriend in those days, grabbed my foot and wooed me back into the tent with his gorgeous smile, “Oh no, let’s rather go later. Let’s be amorous first.” We had a wonderful time but the result was I missed the opportunity to take the sunrise pictures I had intended. I could so easily have said, “Sleep a short while


plotting on my behalf?” Expect miracles, not mayhem, and this is what you will manifest. Become an ‘inverse paranoid’.


Jena will be in Queensland late July and early August, 2015, for consultations and to facilitate workshops.n


Jena Griffiths is an internationally acclaimed hand analyst and an IIHA faculty teacher with degrees in psychology, geography


and education. On her trip to Queensland, she will also be visiting Glasshouse mountains one sunrise.


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