what you meant to do or how you perceive the situation differ- ently. You can be right or you can be happy – that is the choice you are making with your apology.
MAKE IT SINCERE
“Apology is a lovely perfume; it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.” ~Margaret Lee Runbeck
Sincerity is transmitted by the words you use and the energy
you infuse into the conversation. So while it is imperative to take responsibility through your words, it is also imperative to be in the proper place energetically. Don’t enter into your apology irritated or sarcastically. Don’t use it as a means to reopen the discussion about what happened and who has the correct as- sessment of the situation. Enter into this conversation with the intention of a sincere desire to make amends for the disconnec- tion. Take your focus off your perceptions about the event and focus on the connecting part only if that makes it easier for you to move into this place of authenticity. Know your energy is go- ing to speak 100 times louder than your words, so don’t disregard this aspect of your apology.
MAKE IT OPENLY
“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ~Paul Boese
Lastly, make your apology with an open expectation of the outcome. Don’t expect that your apology should mean the per- son no longer feels upset with you or that now they should apologize to you. Both these expectations are centered on using
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your apology to control or manipulate a situation, rather than to reforge a connec- tion.
Your job is to apologize sincerely, ac- cept responsibility and then let the rest go. Go into it without expectations of the out- come to allow the other person the space to feel what they feel and heal as they heal.
I’m not saying apologies are easy. They take vulnerability.
They take accepting responsibility. They take courage, openness and a willingness to put happiness over that delicious feeling of righteousness. But I want that for you. I want you to be coura- geous. I want you to feel a deeper connection to the people in your life through your vulnerability, authenticity and openness. Start small, maybe with someone you are not so emotion- ally entangled with, to practice this skill. But start. Pick up the phone and call someone right now. Patch up a rift in a relation- ship and feel the rush of even a small success. I am here for you – behind you all the way. So count to 3 and just do it.
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