39 Marina Pearson-Summers
The 7 mistakes that stops us moving on from our exs
The process of moving on can be laborious, but even more so if you keep making the same mistakes
J
ANUARY IS the month when the most amount of divorces are processed and relationships
breakdown. However, leaving an ex behind is not as easy as it looks – even if you’re the one who has decided to leave. It is inevitable that anger, guilt, jealousy and sadness will ensue. Some hold onto these emotions for years.
I have women coming to me who are still stuck five years on. What I’ve observed, is that there are seven key mistakes they’re making, stopping them from moving on. So what are these seven mistakes, and how do you correct them to make sure that you can move on?
1. Failure to commit to the process of moving on What I mean by commitment is making sure that you do EVERYTHING to create
the space to move on. This means no sleeping with him, no texting him and no stalking him on Facebook! Instead, commit to do whatever it takes to move on. Make the decision that this is it. That what happened is now in the past, and that it’s time to take yourself forward (whatever your situation). Seek help if you need it.
2. Judge their ex You may have heard the quote, “You cannot be right and happy”. Well this is true. Judging an ex, will not get you anywhere and will keep you angry and jealous. What you judge in another, you judge in you. Once you learn to love what you complain about in your ex, you will start to love the part in yourself that you have judged.
3. Re-hashing their story Have you heard yourself tell the story of
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