www.divorcedparents.co.uk Kirstie Law
The generation game A
Recent statistics show an increase in divorce in the over 60s, but does age make a difference?
ugust 2013 the press reported on the divorce statistics for 2011. Whilst the overall rate has
reduced from the 1993 peak of 165,000 to 118,000 the older generation are bucking this trend with more ‘grey’ divorces. A 73% increase for men aged 60 or older between 1991 and 2011, bringing a total for 2011 of 9,500. There has been much commentary on
why. One obvious reason is now that it is socially more acceptable and we are living longer we expect more from our retirement. In my experience couples who have stayed together ‘for the sake of the children’ feel less obligation once the children are away. We are also working longer and a significant proportion of people meet their new partners at work, so, if we are working longer with less family commitments to get home to, it’s more likely office romances will start.
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Here are some dos and don’ts that I hope will help those finding the end of a long relationship difficult:
● Do ensure you have emotional support. The longer the relationship the more time it may take to get over. Some people find support from family and friends sufficient, for others it is essential to get proper medical support. Divorce can be harder than bereavement because of the confusion about the happy memories that remain and the anger at the betrayal.
● Don’t be surprised if you have some really bad days in the months that follow. Allow yourself to grieve for the end of your marriage, don’t feel inadequate if your ex seems to be coping better.
● Do distract yourself, consider new opportunities - sports or other interests
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