Q & A with Cary Bayer

Long-time Inner Realm

“Life 101” columnist Cary Bayer just had How to Create a Lovelihood: Prospering by Living in Purpose, his 19th book, published by Heaven on Earth Publishing inWood-

stock. Recently, Inner Realm sat down with the Life Coach, meditation teacher, workshop leader and author to glean some insights from his latest book.

INNER REALM: The first thing I couldn’t help but notice

about your book about prospering by living on purpose is that you have a made-up word in the title. I’m referring to the “word” lovelihood. It’s one thing to use a fictitious word in your book, but why would you use it in the title? CARY BAYER: That’s a very observant question. Some-

times if I’m describing an expanded reality there may not be a word that exists for it. So I create one. By putting it in the title, it makes a would-be reader think, “What does the author mean by a lovelihood?” I think it can create curiosity, and a desire to take the book off the shelf. I have my Microsoft Word well trained so it doesn’t auto-correct the word for me. Fair enough. So what exactly is a lovelihood? To answer that thoroughly let’s take a step back and under-

stand what a livelihood is. Essentially it’s the income you derive from work you perform. But all too often, in the majority of American households, that particularwork is either soul-deadening or something a person merely tolerates, or mildly likes at best. It's not work someone would write home about. But a loveli- hood…well, that’s a horse of an entirely different color. It’s work that you love to do that brings in income. It’s work you love to do so much that you would actually spend some of your time doing it for free. The best lovelihoods actually start out that way…some- thing people love so much they give it away. Taking that passion, and fashioning it as a product or service to put into themarketplace enables it to become not just a hobby but a livelihood that you love doing somuch (so you win once) and then get paid to do it (so you win twice). The livelihood becomes a lovelihood. So you see this book as one of purpose or one of prosperity? Actually both. I see fromthe table of contents that you divide the book into

two parts—prosperity and purpose. Precisely. The first part includes prosperity mantras and

prayers fromdifferent spiritual traditions. I even include a fairly thorough list of gods and goddesses from different spiritual traditions around the world. I also include “The Unexpected Income Prayer” which has helped many thousands of people manifest all kinds of income from unexpected sources. To paraphrase Hamlet fromthe eponymous play, “There aremore sources formoney onHeaven and Earth than are dreamed of in your philosophy, Horatio.” Many of our readers are keenly interested in prosperity,

especially at a time when this pandemic has created a deep recession, where jobs have been furloughed or lost and businesses have gone under. I see you have 18 chapters in the prosperity section of the book.What else do you get into in part 1?

8 • One of my favorite chapters is chapter 1 called “God &

Gold: Prosperity in the Bible.” Much of it focuses on the Old Testament, particularly “Genesis,” which is the first chapter of the Bible itself. There are four people who embodied what I call 200 percent of life—a full development of one’s inner spiritual consciousness, as well as an abundant material life, one very much blessed by God. As Sir Francis Bacon put it so aptly, “Prosperity is a blessing of the Old Testament.” “Genesis” is the first chapter of the Bible, so I decided, for the book’s first chapter, to take a look at some of its evolved beings—men who had lively dialogues with God. I notice that you have three chapters in section 1 just on

selling. That's a lot, don’t you think? Actually, I don’t. I like to help my coaching clients and the

students inmyworkshops—physical and virtual—realize that sell- ing can be seen as sharing. I’ve been teaching prosperity classes and coaching people privately on money for some 20 years, and I would say that a majority of folks in what we might call the new age have issueswith selling. Specifically, negative judgments of it; often because they’ve been exposed to far toomany people selling things they don’t like, that aren’t any good, or that they’re under intense pressure to move off the showroom, the shelves, or out of the back room. Those facts have indeed given selling a bad name. You have a provocative chapter called “Show & Sell.” That

sounds an awful lot like the Show & Tell we all were exposed to in kindergarten. And that chapter shows people the close relationship

between the Show & Tell they played when they were five to what I call Show&Sell that they can practicewhen they’re thirty five, forty five, fifty five. It has to dowith awakening passion for sharing with the world the product that you love or the service that you love. Then you have another chapter called “YouAre a Sales Rep

for the Divine.” I don’t think that many people who are sales reps see themselves as sales reps for the divine. I agree. That's why I titled the chapter that. So people who

love what they do can take their egos out of the selling experience and recognize that when they do what they love and put that into the world, they’re doing God’s work, they’re putting the talents that God gave them, or the passion that burns in their hearts for something, into the marketplace, and that can add to the joy of those around them; enable them to feel happy in the process; and bring Spirit into the world. Before I move on to part 2 of your book, there’s one more

chapter title that caughtmy eye, “DoingWhat ComesNaturally: Making Your Second Nature Your Source of Income.” What’s that all about? That was actually one of my favorite chapters to write. As a

life coach, I work with people on different parts of their lives— from relationships and overcoming procrastination to spirituality and prospering by doing what you love. It’s the last of these that I most enjoy coaching people on. It’s so much easier to make your livelihood from doing what

comes naturally than by doing something that is difficult to learn and master. It’s so much harder to put a round peg into a square hole. Round is good, it’swhole; square is….well, square.We don’t use that word somuch anymore, but in decades past squaremeant boring, conforming and conventional.

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