UPBEAT’s SUMMER Entertainment Guide #2 In A Word: Living the Upbeat Life... HO’OPONOPONO by Marcia Singer of Santa Rosa, CA. ~ ~ Q: A: band’s ex-wife?

Can you suggest a way to stop being angry or hurt with my new hus- She resents me,

says mean things about me to their little boy who spends a lot of time at our house. I know she’s got prob- lems, she’s hurting too, and I’d like to be able to forgive her and move on.

It’s so helpful that you already understand that there’s hurt underneath

it all that makes people lash out. There is a Hawaiian term and prac- tice both spiritual and practical that addresses what needs healing, for- giving within. It’s called Ho’opo- nopono [ho-o-po-no-po-no]. My introduction to this practice

came in 2014 during a ceremonial hike with my friend visiting from L.A.

Alisa was healing from an unhappy break up with a paramour, and I, from a harrowing neighbor- hood/housing crisis. We two artis- tic therapist friends had gone to the hills for mutual deep listening and sharing. “We want ho’oponopono,” said Alisa, “forgiveness and recon- ciliation.”

Synchronistically, my best friend Carolyn and my sister Beth each mentioned this same practice soon after! So I Wikipedia-ed:


cultural and spiritual connotations of a state of harmony or balance.” I

noticed p-o-n-o twice: was “pono” a Hawaiian word, too? Yikes, I this: nvs.

found Good -

ness, upright- n e ss, moral qualities,

It's all over." “Ponopono” is also a word. It means to make right or put in order, to correct, re- vise, adjust, amend…rectify or tidy up. Sharing this with Carolyn, she advised, “Read about the therapist Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.” Serendipitously, an interview


procedure, excellence, well-be- ing, prosperity, welfare, bene- fit, equity, true condition or nature, duty; fitting, proper, righteous, just, virtuous, fair, bene- ficial, successful, in perfect order, accurate, eased, relieved; should, must, necessary. Com - prop -


pletely, e rl y,

rightly, well, exactly, carefully, satisfactorily, much. n. Property, resources, as- sets, fortune, belongings, goods, furniture,


possessions, accessories, necessities. n. Use, purpose, plan. n. Hope. Confusing?! A quote from UH College of Ed-

ucation staffer Lilette Subedi came next. “Pono is intangible in many ways…difficult to articulate…eas- ier to see in action...It’s a founda- tion coming from beneath us…[yet also] into us, it permeating us... coming from above and around us.

with Dr. Len happened to be in Common Ground magazine. Work- ing at Hawaii State Hospital, on a ward for criminally insane persons, he employed ho’oponopono prac- tices without ever see- ing a patient. While reading each pa-


tient’s file, he would pray, “I’m sorry. I love you.” While meditat- ing on feeling that for each in- mate, he worked on healing himself, too. Over time, pa- thought to

be incurable began to heal. Eventually all were released from shackles and incarceration. Today the ward is closed. This is a well documented amaz- ing story of the power of love and forgiveness. I’m magnetized to it. I’m reminded of Native American teachings on the “web of life,” that “all are relations.” Similarly, Ha-

waiian wisdom remembers that you and I are part of a unified whole. So healing and forgiving myself helps heal you, and vice versa. There is no blame assigned, only loving intention. We come full circle, the world is a better place by saying and meaning, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you.” Over and over again, letting it sink in that you and I are One, in the greater Scheme O’ Things, and each of us deserves love, forgiveness, re- newal. Reminding me that the word atonement pulls apart into at-one- ment –a mantra for me every time the Jewish new year rolls around. In a word, I trust ho’oponopono can help anyone sincerely want- ing to move on. Shining deLight, Marcia

JOKES & Humor #4

That awkward moment when you leave a store without buying anything and all you can think is “act

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Recording on an Australian tax help line. ~

“I would like vitamins for my son,” a mother said. “Vitamin A, B or C?” the pharmacist asked. “It doesn’t matter,” the mother replied. “He can’t read yet.” ~ Q: What do you call someone who can’t stick with a diet?

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