Self Development Confidence Can Be Learned #3


SONOMA COUNTY, CA. ~ Upbeat Times’ readers of my first two segments have walked with me through new research and literature from Har- vard Busi- ness School, Forbes and other leading authorities which sug- gest that con- fidence can be learned and, when learned, confidence b e c o m e s authentic! Since the benefits of learned con- fidence are so wonderful and relevant


(lowered stress and


anxiety, improved mood, better chances of being hired) it’s high time everyone considers learn-


way to run away without leaving home. Twyla Tharp


Art is the only


ing confidence techniques. It seems everyone is talking about the important of confi- dence. The May 2014 issue of the esteemed At- lantic Month- ly magazine featured an article, The Confidence Gap, which highlighted the confi- dence gap between men and women (women hesi- tate more, even in the situations in which they are better prepared)


and the incredible importance of confidence, reporting that “Success…correlates just as closely with confidence as it does with competence.”


Even By Sioux Messinger • info@creamofthecropleaders.com


more, the Atlantic Monthly re- ported that the most confident people are often just considered the most beloved in the group, even when more competent members of the group exist. Zachary Estes, a research psy- chologist who’s long been curious about the confidence disparity between men and women believes that the natural result of low confidence is in- action. As the Atlantic Month- ly reports, confidence “is the factor that turns thoughts into judgments about what we are capable of, and that then trans- forms those judgments into ac- tion.” The implications of this challenge-approach


tendency


are enormous when you con- sider that avoidance both cre- ates and maintains many forms of anxiety and depression. Confidence allows us to re-


main powerfully rooted in our potential, even when the seem- ingly safe harbors of old nega- tive


self-stories loom large. Confidence allows us to be


present in the midst of anxiety which naturally accompanies healthy risks.


Confidence al-


lows us to be present to the greatness that is already within us.


The field of learned confidence is truly exciting and meaning- ful. By practicing confident behaviors, we build further confident feelings and behav- iors, creating a virtuous cycle. We begin to approach, rather than avoid, the very long-term goals that bring us real and last- ing joy.


can literally transform lives.


Sioux (Sue) Messinger is offering a 3-day confidence- coaching workshop to only 20 people in our area (and to cor- porate/private groups upon re- quest). This workshop, Cream of the Crop Leaders, is open to people from all walks of life and makes a valuable gift with lifelong benefits. Email me for Registration and details.


Johnny: Daddy, are caterpillars good to eat?


Learned confidence


Father: Have I not told you never to mention such things during meals!


Mother: Why did you say that, Junior? Why did you ask the question?


Johnny: It’s because I saw one on daddy’s lettuce, but now it’s gone.


UPBEAT TIMES • June 2014 • 7 JOKES & Humor # 4


Twin Oaks Tavern Celebrating 90 years in


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A poem is never finished, only abandoned. ~Paul Valéry UPBEAT TIMES • June 2014 • 7


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