HOW CAN I RECOGNIZE MY SHADOWS? You can recognize your shadows by looking at what you project onto others. When you deny a trait in yourself, you tend to be very aware of that trait in other people. In the twelve-step tradition, they say, "If you spot it, you got it." This means that you are most aware of those traits in other people that reflect or mirror your own shadows. You may over-react or react irrationally to one of these traits you see in someone else, becoming unduly annoyed and blowing things all out of proportion. You can also notice the traits that you admire the most in
others. Who do you look up to? Who are your idols? We often project our golden shadows onto others, and get stars in our eyes, because these people represent the qualities we have failed to own in ourselves out of a false sense of modesty. You could say that we paint other people with our shadows, for better and for worse.
Another way to recognize your shadows is to look for things
you find yourself doing unconsciously. No matter how hard you try to keep your bag sealed, your shadows may sneak out in a way that seems beyond your control. For example, you may promise yourself that you're going to spend more time with your family, when you actually spend more time at work. You may find yourself jumping into a questionable relationship, when you know that this person isn't right for you. You may ignore your own rules about eating, smoking or drinking. When you repeat a pattern of behavior involuntarily, it is a sign that your shadow is running your life’s show.
FORGIVENESS AND PERSONAL HEALING “True forgiveness is the master release process, a tool that
opens the energy field of the body and liberates destructive ener- gies from within.” (Dr. Michael Ryce, author of Why Is This Hap- pening To Me… Again - website:
http://www.whyagain.com/). The root meaning of Forgiveness in Aramaic is ‘to cancel, untie or let loose.’ Clearly, this is a tool for changing a reality in the mind, for changing a part of your belief system. And, this is a tool for releasing your shadows from that bag that has gotten very heavy and burdensome. Our shadows are buried deep down in our unconscious
mind. However, this does not mean that these shadows are inac- tive. In fact, the truth is that these powerful energies are con- stantly trying to come to the surface to be healed and we keep pushing them back down. Unfortunately, our fear of facing these shadows is so strong that we frequently and unconsciously proj- ect them onto other people. When we do that, we make the other person wrong for those things that we hate and deny about ourselves. And, then we blame them for how we feel. Sound familiar?
Shame and guilt have been shown to have very low ener-
getic vibrations, and if carried in your own energy field for a long time, these low energies will deplete your overall life energy to a very low level. This can create low self-esteem, apathy, and depression. True forgiveness, therefore, is very much about rais- ing your body’s energetic vibration and restoring your life force back to a place of healthy balance.
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The person or event you think causes pain
really only triggers and brings to the surface realities that are already within you.
They are giving you the opportunity to heal.
ALL FORGIVENESS IS SELF-FORGIVENESS Forgiveness is essentially something we do for ourselves, regardless of whether the person we are blaming for our feelings, the perpetrator, shows any contrition of any kind. It is possible that telling someone that you are forgiving them can be counterproductive. They may not even be aware that you have felt hurt by their words and/or actions. In reality, forgiving another person can sometimes seem like a form of manipulation, which can possibly create a backlash such
as a feeling of manipulation in that person. If we make reciprocity a condition of forgiveness, we give
all our power to the perpetrator and create a state of our being powerless. When we give up our power like that, we become the victim and feel worse than we did before we began the for- giveness process. As long as we feel victimized by an event of pain and hurt, then in reality forgiveness will remain all but impossible, especially self-forgiveness. When someone has hurt you, pardon them and then work on your healing.
FORGIVENESS WORKS MIRACLES To heal yourself, identify those feelings and thoughts that
reside in your emotional and mental energy systems. Take own- ership of these feelings and thoughts and embrace them with your heart’s compassion and kindness. Own these energies as yours, even though they may appear to be caused by someone else.
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