MANAGING YOUR PTA – Dealing with adversity
‘You can’t turn back the clock, but you can wind it up again’ Bonnie Prudden
is composed of three main elements. Firstly, optimistic people view the effects of bad events as being temporary rather than permanent. Secondly, resilient people don’t let setbacks affect unrelated areas of their life. Finally, resilient people don’t blame themselves
when bad events occur. They see other people or circumstances as being the cause. People with an optimistic explanatory style tend to be happier, healthier and more successful at work, at school and in sport. Those with a pessimistic explanatory style are more prone to depression, anxiety and low self-esteem.
Let it out Honour your feelings and recognise that difficult emotions such as anger, depression and loneliness are a natural part of the human experience. Let your emotions out by having a good cry if you need to. Crying can help you to regain your emotional balance as it releases toxins that have built up in the body due to stress. You should find that you feel calmer and less anxious afterwards. Another good way to express your feelings is through a creative outlet such as painting, blogging or playing a musical instrument. Creative activities can reduce stress and help
you to process your experiences and feelings. The options for self-expression are endless. Whether you write poems, take photographs or draw sketches, creative pursuits offer you the space to deal with a range of emotions in a healthy and constructive way.
Cultivate compassion When faced with a setback, it’s all too easy to be hard on ourselves – but that won’t help a bit. If
you have one cigarette after quitting, or fail to stick to a new study regime, beating yourself up is likely to start a downward spiral that can be hard to escape. Instead, practise self-compassion. You actually made an effort, which is more than some people ever achieve. Treat yourself with kindness, climb back in the saddle, and keep going.
Lessons in failure No one is immune to failure. We all experience disappointments, frustrations and bruised egos from time to time. However, resilient people don’t let failure stop them. They find the lessons hidden within these difficult moments and use these to help them overcome their next challenge. If you’ve made a mistake or something’s gone
disastrously wrong, take a little bit of time to reflect. Ask yourself some constructive questions. What did I do right? What could I have done better? What’s the lesson here? Successful souls manage to pick themselves up and persevere, armed with greater knowledge and wisdom.
Struggles lead to strength The strongest tree in the forest is not the one that is protected from the wind and rain. The strongest trees are the ones that are exposed to the elements. They develop deep roots and stout trunks in order to survive. In the same way, the struggles we face and
overcome in our own lives make us stronger. Reminding yourself of this fact can help you weather the storms of life.
From Resilience: How to Turn Adversity into Strength by Josh Floyd (Summersdale Publishers, £6.99)
summersdale.com
‘When you have exhausted all possibilities‚
remember this: you haven’t’ Thomas Edison
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