THE HUMAN ERROR
did the same thing. War is a SEE that often leads to PTSD discussed in the Stress article last April 2017 EQ can be altered by consciously talking to it and questioning any decision made on the basis of emotion or Early Life Decisions. For example — the idea that all blondes are stupid or that no man can be trusted after you’ve undergone a nasty divorce. We are not locked into our past unless we let it be!
We can’t change the past, but we certainly can control and change the future. Let’s look at the differences between the Rational Mind or IQ and the Emotional Mind or EQ
IQ VERSUS EQ Is a part of all decision making Controls your reasoning Born with a finite amount
Can improve it only within a very limited range of your born IQ
Environment has little influence on it
Is developed mainly by learning
Measurable
Will help determine what you do in life
Can do little about it
Is a part of all decision- making
Controls your emotions and happiness
Born with a full range of emotions
Can be increased, massaged or squelched. Limited only by one’s willingness to apply
Environment has a great influence on it
Is developed mainly by experiences
Very difficult to measure
Will determine how well you do in life
Can do everything with it if willing to make the effort
In 1943 Abraham Maslow developed his hierarchy of needs or motivators that influence human behavior. He stated that the first physiological needs (food shelter) must be met before the next can become the dominant motivator. While he called it life growth, I feel it is also attitude growth. To reach your full potential you must reach the 5th level of self-fulfillment. It is at this level that one reaches their full potential and strives to give back to society. Sadly, not everyone reaches this stage in life or attitude. We are very fortunate that we live in a part of the world where this level of needs is attainable. What can we do to improve our attitude? The following
are five simple steps that applied will help ensure that your attitude is the best that it can be. 1. Know your emotions. Remember that attitude was defined as a feeling or emotion toward an act or state. What is your key emotion? Take some time to analyze what emotions are controlling your attitude.
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2. Control your emotions. If anger is your key emotion, you may benefit from professional help because if that emotion is not controlled you will lead a difficult and likely unhappy life. This step is vital to improving your attitude
3. Recognize emotions in others. Each of us is different and have different attitudes. Try to understand what emotions are driving their attitude.
4. Develop empathy for their emotions. By that we mean that we can “cut them some slack” once we understand the emotions that have lead to their attitude. That can lead to an improvement in your own attitude. Perhaps reread last month’s article on Wabi-Sabi that illustrates that no one is perfect.
5. Learn and practice self-motivation. We are complex creatures with a tendency to be negative thinkers. Positive thinking can go a long way toward changing one’s attitude for the better.
When things appear to be going wrong always
remember Mom’s advice. Remember that Mothers are NEVER wrong. STOP — Take a few seconds to assess the situation
For example: someone just cut you off and you had to slam on your brakes to avoid a collision. LOOK at the situation rationally. Do not let the initial emotion of anger take control.
LISTEN to the rational mind. In the big scheme of things there was no damage or injuries and life is back to normal.
ACT by, in this case, not reacting to the initial emotional response you were tempted to do.
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