Top tips for a rich life

Do you ever ask yourself “what am I doing with my life? Is this it?” It’s natural and normal to reflect on your life at this time of year – a bit of a hangover from our school term times. Hopefully you feel content and happy with where you are and where you’re going. But sometimes darker feelings arise. Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions?

How did I end up here? What am I doing with my life? Is this it?

I’ve been coaching since 2008. Since then, every single one of my clients has said at least one of these sentences to me in our very first meeting. They usually come to see me thinking that they need a new career. A milestone birthday has been and gone and they are dissatisfied. Something is not right. They pre- sume their career is the culprit, but then we start talking and they realise it’s not the job that is to blame for their case of the blues. It’s their whole life.

Why am I so unsatisfied? I am feeling bored with myself and my life If you’re feeling the way my clients have, it may be that you’re experiencing ‘individuation’, the beginning of the process of self- actualisation coined by Carl Jung.

If you listen very carefully, you’ll hear a tiny voice inside you try- ing hard to get your attention. It’s this voice which is grumbling in your head as you stack the dishwasher, jump on the Tube or write yet another report for your boss. This tiny voice is your true self.

Your true self has been buried for a while. In the course of growing up, maybe raising a family and climbing the career ladder, you’ve been able to silence it with the added pounds on your pay cheque or the soft feel of your toddler’s arms around your neck. But the pile of pounds has become meaningless, and the sweet toddler is now a stroppy teen or has left home. Now that dissatisfied voice – your true self – is shouting at you louder and louder.

Listen to it and you can feel truly fulfilled and satisfied. You can discover your true potential, feel happy and live a more fulfilled and meaningful life. But how?

30 FOCUS The Magazine September/October 2019

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