The Power to


Question Defeat! By Guy Finley


You possess a potential power that is superior to any difficulty that life may ever present. This immense inner capability enables anyone who will claim it to instantly rise above his or her challenge. It makes no difference what form the challenge may


assume or how huge it looms. This latent power of yours can render it harmless and ultimately make it disappear. This friendly force that can turn your life into a series of victories is the power to question defeat. First we must realize that our stressful, pain-filled experiences are not caused by people or events, but by our reactions to them. And yet, if we will honestly examine the way we presently question our defeats, here’s what we see: we are still desperately seeking answers that serve only to correct the surface or exterior conditions. We are still blaming circumstances for crushing us.


By their very nature our old questions tend to make and then keep


us victims. They imply that someone or something outside of ourselves is punishing us. No human being is a victim of any punishment outside of his own life-level from which his inner reactions are seen as outer attacks. This is why we must learn to turn our questions into tools for developing self-wholeness instead of letting them lead us off in the wrong direction.


These new questions are the power that defeats defeat. They alone insure total victory. Each time you ask the right question about an inner ache, you receive the new and right result of being released from the dark deceptions of the false self that wants you to fight with life. Here are nine new questions that lead to self-wholeness. Use them to see the difference between how you used to think and how you will question defeat from now on. You will win! Questions for Self-Wholeness


1) Instead of always asking yourself why things always happen to you, learn to ask


“What is it inside of me that attracts these painful situations?” 2) Instead of always asking yourself why things had to go this way


or that way, learn to ask conditions?”


“Why is the way I feel always determined by external


3) Instead of always asking yourself how to protect yourself in challenging situations, learn to ask


“What is it in me that always needs to be defended?” 4) Instead of always asking yourself what to do about tomorrow


learn to ask,


“Can there ever be intelligence in anxiety or worry?” 5) Instead of always asking yourself why does so-and-so act this or


that way, learn to ask “What’s inside of me that wants to hurt itself over how anyone


acts?”


6) Instead of always crying out, “Why me?” learn to ask, “ Who is this “me” that always feels this way?”


7) Instead of always asking yourself if you’ve made the right choice, learn to ask, “Can fear ever make a safe decision?” 8) Instead of always asking yourself why doesn’t so-and-so see how wrong they are, learn to ask,


Or them?”


“Is what I’m feeling about that person right now good for me? 9) Instead of always asking yourself how to get others to approve


you, learn to ask “What do I really want, the applause of the crowds or to quietly have my own life?”


Excerpted from The Secret of Letting Go by Guy Finley, Llewellyn Worldwide


Guy Finley is the best-selling author of over 45 books and audio albums on self-realization. He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-development located in southern Oregon. For more information visit www.guyfinley.org.


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