 If I say anything, she'll tell everyone I'm the abusive one, and shame me in public.


 What will people think if they knew I let a woman beat up on me?


Why Men Don't Report Physical Abuse


*Every 37.8 seconds, somewhere in America a man is battered


For too long, domestic violence has been


framed and understood exclusively as a women's issue. While most attention is given to women who are abused by men, men are often overlooked victims of domestic vio- lence. Men often suffer physical abuse in silence


because they are afraid that no one will be- lieve them or take them seriously. In fact, some men who do try to get help find that they are mocked and ridiculed. No one would even think of telling a battered woman that getting beaten by her husband wasn’t a big deal, but people often don’t think twice about saying that to a battered man. Many men are too embarrassed to admit


that they are being abused; therefore, men are also less likely to call the police, even when there is injury, because, like women, they feel shame about disclosing family vio- lence. For many men, the shame is com- pounded by the shame of not being able to keep their wives under control. Among this group, a "real man" would be able to keep her under control.


Reasons why it may be so hard to leave: Shame


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Self-Worth  With my looks, or age, or personality, or this is as good a relationship as I'll ever be able to get.


 I probably deserved it.


Denial  All I have to do is leave the house until she cools down.


 It's not that bad.


Reluctance to Give Up the Good  I'd be lost without a relationship.  She's like this only some of the time.


Just like abused women, men are told


when they suffer physical violence; abuse is never the victim's fault. This is no less true just because the victim happens to be male.


Psalms 9:9 The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.


Source: helpguide.org; batteredmen.com


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