We accept circumstances, habits, and other points of view because all the other things on offer make us content. We really don’t want to let go of our attachment, truly believing that this other person understands us and makes us feel like no other has before. We have reached a level of comfort and have planned a future together.
BREAK-UPS: NEW LEARNING FOR THE SOUL Then, somehow it all changes and becomes discordant. Unfortunately, in our happiness being dependent on a person or a thing, we have depended on a condition, and conditions change. Conditional happiness is not happiness. It is a deal. New learning for the soul must occur
so that every break-up can signify a new learning period for both partners. If we understood this, relationships would be easier to move on from. When we don’t see the end of a
relationship as learning for the soul, we are more likely to see it as a failure and want to hold onto it, to save face. It is part of our conditioning to seek out a partner and live happily ever after. Our society is built on the notion
that having one long-term relationship denotes some kind of stability and anything less than that is treated with suspicion. Everyone is looking for the one to not only feel fulfilled but to replicate the conditioning that we are bombarded with from an early age. Like Cinderella, we yearn for the
Buddha said, in the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you learn to let go?
prince. Everyone wants to find love but not everybody does. Learning for our soul journey does
not follow conventional ideas. It may require numerous relationships for our souls’ lessons to be taught, as we all learn in our own time. Understanding this concept is necessary to develop a comprehension that loving ourself is a prerequisite to loving another unconditionally. Everything else is make- believe, deception. If we truly loved our partner, we would wish them to be happy with or without us, whatever that involves.
CONDITIONAL HAPPINESS Conditional happiness is not true happiness; it is a deal where one partner may suggest the other stays and enforces this through guilt and obligation. Often one person is unable to let go. Never wanting to feel alone in their unhappiness, they do their best to emotionally manipulate and transfer the sorrow to their fleeing partner. This in fact is how emotional baggage is created. It can be anchored
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to both partners and carried into all future relationships, having significant impact as it compounds. Letting go of conditional love, and learning to love yourself is a surer way to find the loving relationship that you are looking for. A person attached to another
identifies their happiness with that person, meaning they project the cause of their happiness outside of themselves. This always indicates a lack of self-worth and self-love; two of the most important things to be nurtured in every person. It is not that true perception is ignorant of attachment; the difference is that its happiness does not depend on any one person or condition. When letting go can be seen as a
gift to the development of the soul of another, we will know we have arrived in a place of self-love. This place of self- love will enable us to stand alone and rejoice in the experience that we have had, knowing that it was an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve for both partners. There has been no failure, simply a learning experience for the soul. n
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Glenda is a children’s book author, counsellor, NLP/ hypnotherapy practitioner and meditation teacher. She has been meditating for over
30 years, and enjoys writing to help others gain a more spiritual aspect to this life experience.
Melbourne Brisbane
Sunshine Coast
120687
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