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can you handle? We have a great deal of love to share inside, some of it is in the form of advice about relationships, some of it is about sexual love and some of it is through stories of a personal kind... journeys of love... if you will.
LOVE I had the honor of chatting with LGBT
rights (or as they would say it GLBT rights) pioneers, Jack Baker and Michael McConnell about their new book,The Wedding Heard ‘Round the World: America’s First Gay Wed- ding. What an education I received (as you will) about the LGBT marriage fight and its early foundations. Sometimes, it is difficult to look beyond the horrors of the HIV/AIDS crisis, after all, time did seem in many ways to freeze while there. The great gift when you do however, is to read, see and learn about the rich history waiting there. The very roots of our modern gay movement are ours to obtain strength and courage from and Jack and Michael are a part of it. Theirs is a heartfelt love story at its core. One with its share of victories, losses and thankfully, a tale with a long, rich history. In a culture of 15-second electronic sound bites and a blindingly fast flow of information, it was like receiving a sweet Valentine’s loving touch after talking to a couple who have been together for more than four decades. I have been chasing Alan Cumming for a
very long time. February was the month that I caught him, the month of love... Too bad (for me) that he’s already married! A boy (okay, we’re way passed boy), can dream, can’t he? He was as funny and entertaining as I thought he’d be... And like Jack and Michael, has a remarkable and fascinating story to tell. He has climbed the mountain of success and after many years of entertaining us seems to have grown to love the view from there. No stranger to some of life’s more difficult chal- lenges, as his recent book, Not My Father’s Son illustrates, Cumming manages to turn his pain, into a brilliant ability to enthrall and entertain. We’ve got Brian Rzepczynski The Gay Love Coach on board for those of us who are
feeling like Cupid’s arrow has gone astray. He gives us ten great, common-sense rules for successfully navigating love’s tantalizing and sometimes extremely, bumpy road. As he says, “While the odds do seem to be stacked against us in the fight for the dream of claiming our rightful partner with the accompanying house, white picket fence and prideful rainbow flag securely attached to the front porch, they don’t have to be obstacles to our success. Having to face so much adversity has actually enabled many of us to be quite resilient in the face of stress and makes us good candidates for partnerships with the right focus and determination.” It’s all about staying in the game and learning to turn those lemons into lemonade, folks. Salvatore Garanzini of San Francisco’s Gay Couple’s institute, couldn’t agree more. He studied under The Gottman Method, which was based on a large 10-year study of LGBT couples. It seems, like The Gay Love Coach says, we’re especially well-equipped to deal with the bumps in love’s journey. “Same-sex couples tend to be more upbeat in the face of conflict. Because of that, partners tend to have a more positive response and to be more receptive.” A positive attitude and sticking to it... I think I sense a theme here.
Read, play and find joy in love... Time’s a wastin’!
Joel Martens,Editor in Chief
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