real lives
Kith&kin
her suspecting it. But now I’m
happy to tell her everything
and my day doesn’t seem com-
plete until I’ve told her just
about everything.
KINdred SpIrITS
There have been so many
occasions when I’ve been
feeling blue or am stuck in
the middle of some crisis
Mother and daughter discuss their unique friendship.
and she’ll call me just at that
moment because she felt like
All mothers I may need her. So, in every
and daughters sense of the phrase, she’s
Sanjana share a certain always there when I need her.
bond that keeps I’m about to have a baby of
them close, but my own, but to this day my
with Nasreen and I, that bond mum will complain about the
seems more potent somehow. state of my room. I just don’t
It could be because she’s my see a problem with having my
only child but it’s also because hair brush under a stack of
I feel more comfortable with magazines or my clothes in
her than with anyone else. a pile rather than in the cup-
I can’t really explain our board; if I can find it, then it’s
relationship. It is almost ok. Mum can’t deal with that,
telepathic. When she’s hav- she goes crazy and we’ll fight
ing any sort of problem, I’m over it constantly.
always aware of it - whether She’ll voice her concerns
she’s with me at that time or when necessary, which caused
not. And there are times when conflict when I was younger,
I think of her during the day but I see now that she’s just
and she’ll call me. used to encourage her to take ‘You can fool all looking out for me and as time
We discuss everything, subjects that would pave her people some of has gone by we have come to
and from a very young age she way into a career in either Nasreen the time, and an understanding and have
would come to me with her medicine or engineering, but some people all learnt to balance our friend-
problems for advice. It’s not as the years went by, her crea- of the time… ship with our kinship.
that we agree on everything, tivity flared and she seemed but you can never fool mum!’ The fact that I don’t have
because we don’t. For exam- more drawn to media-related That’s just the way it is, any brothers or sisters has
ple, I don’t approve of some of subjects. I wasn’t sure this was and I think one of the reasons made me value my mom more.
her friends because I don’t see the right path because it’s not my mum and I have grown to She is the person I go to for
them as good companions for exactly traditional and this become best friends over the any support or feel comfort-
her. But Nasreen sees the good industry can be difficult but past few years is because I’ve able enough to argue with. I
in everyone and says she’ll eventually I realised that she learnt to accept that. appreciate the honesty in our
never know what someone is is good at most of the things I know there isn’t anyone in relationship; I know she won’t
like until she befriends them. she does, and if she isn’t, she the world who would give me keep anything from me or do
When she was younger we makes it work for her because the same enduring love and anything to hurt me ever. It
would argue over everything, she is so enthusiastic. support or advice I get from really is a special feeling to be
like her unhealthy eating hab- Now that she’s pregnant, I her solely because she wants the foremost issue on some-
its - she loves junk food - or can’t believe it; and to use the the best from me. In her I have one’s mind all the time. l
how untidy she is. I’m very biggest cliché, it seems like the best of both worlds - a
organised and methodical, so only yesterday I was holding great mother who guides me
“i know There
it’s hard for me to see a pile of her hand while she took her along life’s path when I need
clothes in the middle of the first steps. Of course, I have it, and a wonderful friend who
isn’T anyone
room and not do something fears like any mother does for is considerate and only has my in The world
about it immediately. her child, but I know Nasreen best interest at heart.
who would
Now, I’ve realised that I will make a great parent. I’m I hang out with her like I
have to give her the freedom sure we’ll argue more about would with people my age and
give me
to make mistakes and learn what to feed the baby and how we love shopping together. The same
from them, and she’s noticed much to cover him/her up, but When I was younger, her
enduring
my advice is only for her own the best friendships are those mum-radar would freak me
good. Or what I see as good. with people you feel most out because it seemed like I
love, advice
When she was younger, I comfortable with. couldn’t do anything without
and supporT.”
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