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12 Happy Holiday Tips How to Really Enjoy the Season


by Dianne Bischoff James F


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eelings of comfort and joy can seem elusive when the holiday to-do list looms or runs


amok. The season can seem more like an endless burden than a parade of cheerful events and glad tidings. Amidst celebratory chaos, these simple rules will help restore inner peace and create greater happiness.


Eschew Perfection Guests are much more interested in filling their stomachs with great


food than judging the scuff marks and wall dings. The perfection of the season is found in the special moments when families and friends sit down together.


Pay Attention to the Smiles The approaching holidays encourage more shared smiles,


kind words and thoughtful gestures. While out and about, look for the grins and well wishes. Hold the door open for others and offer a friendly greeting to store clerks. We’ll find ourselves smiling even more, because thoughtfulness is contagious.


Do Nothing for 15 Minutes It’s amazing how refreshed we feel when we take a few minutes


to sit in a comfortable chair and simply experience a moment of stillness. Inner quiet allows the mind to relax and reinvest energy in the body, so we can return to holiday activities with renewed zest.


Give Each Person a Special Gift Think of something thoughtful that both the giver and receiver


enjoy doing together and write a prom- issory note for the shared experience, such as a free backrub, a day spent downtown, a personal manicure or a movie the other person wants to see.


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Take Advantage of Extended Shopping Hours To avoid crowds and lines,


schedule a late-night power-shopping trip. This is the easiest way to manage a department store visit with sanity, have easy access to the shelves and get immediate service.


Take a Holiday Binge Day Designate a day with no limits and no self-judgment. For


anyone that mentally monitors their calories or sweets, claim a binge day out loud with permission for total holiday munching freedom. The next day, we can reinstate discipline.


Sing While We Work Nothing makes meal preparation tasks go faster than crooning


along to our favorite carols. Turn up Susan Boyle’s O Holy Night and soon your lungs will be full of air, your heart filled with sentiment, and the turkey stuffed with seasonal goodness will be ready to go into the oven.


Express Feelings in a Healthy Way Family gatherings can sometimes


test our boundaries and patience. Avoid repressing feelings by finding a way to speak a personal truth in the moment, in a calm and healthy fashion. It’s better than returning home stewing about what we wish we could or should have said.


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Assign Roles to Household Helpers


The holiday load is lighter when


everyone pitches in. Assign specific roles to household members with clear respon- sibilities, from taking out the garbage to setting the table and washing up.


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Leave Some Tasks for Later It’s unrealistic to think the house has to be in perfect


order after festive gatherings. After guests leave, put the leftovers in the fridge and watch a movie. Cleanup will feel easier and faster after a good night’s rest.


Express Gratitude at the Table Loving feelings can never be


expressed enough, so use the holiday as an opportunity to tell others how import- ant they are to you. Create a heartfelt moment at the table by sharing at least one thing that you’re truly grateful for, and ask everyone else to do the same.


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Go Outside for Fun in Nature Hiking in a nearby forest


preserve, skating, sledding or building a snow fort with the kids not only burns energy, but is emotionally exhilarating for the whole family. Pick an outdoor activity, don appropriate togs, and share in the laughter and serenity of a spar- kling winter day.


Dianne Bischoff James is a life transforma- tion coach, actor, business consultant and author of The Real Brass Ring: Change Your Life Course Now. She specializes in facilitating the midlife reboot and lives in Boston, MA.


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