FAMILY SUPPORT
Intercultural skills for relocating families
RELOCATING TO ANOTHER COUNTRY, WITH THE RESULTING CULTURE SHOCK AND DISTANCE FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS, CAN BE EXTREMELY CHALLENGING. INTERCULTURAL TRAINER AND CONSULTANT KATARINA HOLM-DIDIO SHARES HER TIPS FOR ENSURING THE WHOLE FAMILY HAS A POSITIVE EXPERIENCE OF THEIR NEW ENVIRONMENT.
learned through my work with expatriate families and individuals as they have shared their stories of success and sadness in living globally.
A Allow me to share three lessons.
LESSON 1 You may have lived in several countries and worked
with people from different cultures and yet not display cross- cultural competence in your behaviour. Understanding others begins with understanding yourself. To do so, you need to practise some introspection. Take time to explore and tell your unique family story – your heritage, values, customs and beliefs. As serial expats, remember to develop the narrative continuously. Talk to each other, use visuals, write, and draw. Create a positive narrative, while not hiding the painful.
LESSON 2
Some of the children I have met bravely start school without speaking the language or knowing much of what is expected of them and how to make friends. Give your children an opportunity to learn the language and explore cultural differences in education and interactions with teachers and peers prior to the move.
Moving is such a stressful event. Spending days in classes where you don’t understand what is being said, and consequently cannot learn, is even harder.
While everyone cannot afford private tutors and consultants, there are plenty of affordable or free language and culture learning resources. Libraries are a good place to start. There are books, blogs, podcasts, movies, online learning opportunities, and so on. And, of course, look for, and consult with, peers who either live, or used to live, in the country you are moving to.
djusting to relocation and to living in different cultures while not losing your identity requires creativity, resiliency and grit. This is what I’ve
LESSON 3 As parents, we model behaviour to our children.
It doesn’t matter what we say if our actions contradict our words. This is especially true when teaching our children about cultural differences and giving them those much-talked-about skills for a global life. Modelling positive coping skills can be challenging if
you, as a parent, are going through the different phases of adjustment and perhaps experiencing the dark side of culture shock. Asking your children to be patient, tolerant and open to differences while you openly criticise and complain about your new home and glorify the traits of the place you left behind is counterproductive.
Change is hard for most of us. Global relocations, with the subsequent culture change and distance from family and friends, can be emotionally and mentally very difficult. Ignoring the painful and the difficult is not an option, but trying to find constructive ways to cope with them is. As a couple, share your experiences of the relocation
with each other. Often, they are different when one partner works while the other cares for house, home and family. Initiate conversations with the children. Create a safe environment where they can voice their feelings, fears and frustrations without guilt or judgment. Finally, don’t forget to share and celebrate the positive and reach out to others for support and friendship. Research tells us that a meaningful relocation experience is built on social relationships. In person. And real cross-cultural learning comes from knowing people who are different.
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