PER SON AL DEVELOPMENT
Feeling stuck? How to get going again.
Action creates energy and motivation. Not the other way round. The secret is to keep moving, just like when riding a bicycle. But what happens if one is totally stuck? How do we get back in the swing of things?
by Jena Griffiths 2
600 years ago Buddha said, “Life is dukkha”. Although ‘dukkha’ is usually translated as ‘suffering’
it actually means ‘stuck wheel’; as in the wheel of an oxcart stuck in the mud. With this in mind, let’s explore six different types of ‘stuck wheel’ that I experienced in my cycling days, what to do about each, how this may apply to your particular ‘stuck’ state, and how to get going again.
HERE ARE 7 STUCK STATES TO WATCH OUT FOR: 1. Flat wheel Think of the air in your tyres as ego. We need ego to keep us alive and to lessen the bumps in the road. If we are too deflated we get stuck, but also if we are over-inflated.
22 MAY 2017
If you ever go to watch a triathlon race go stand near the transition zone. If it’s a hot day, chances are you’ll hear “bang” every now and then coming from where the bikes hang out before the riders finish the swim. “Bang” means some poor athlete’s wheel has popped due to over-inflation. Perhaps this is also what happens with too much ego. We explode as soon as things get too heated and chances are, we aren’t even fully present yet when it happens. Punctures can be opportunities to
connect. I once met an Irish travel writer named Dervlah Murphy who cycled right down though Africa yet could not fix a puncture, let alone repair anything. I asked her how she managed and she said any mishap was an opportunity to meet and be rescued by the locals. How
many of us think that way in normal life? We are so determined to do it all on our own that we fail to allow others the pleasure of shining.
2. Buckled wheel Think of your personality makeup as the different spokes in your flywheel. You are not just one type, but a complex mix of many interwoven types. Each ‘spoke’ is a different voice, a personality archetype, or strength. There always needs to be a balance. If one is too tight, too loose, or missing, the wheel buckles and gets stuck. How to get going again? Reclaim
your neglected or disowned voices. How? Look at any person you admire, or one you dislike intensely or who frustrates you. In some way they are mirroring back to you a disowned spoke even if the image is reversed. Take what has happened to the women’s movement since Trump was elected, for example. Millions of women now feel enlivened. They have also regained their disowned voices, standing their ground and even moving forward while inspiring billions of others all around the globe. In what way is each person you don’t
like a mirror? Use the mirror to actively adjust your own position and thank
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