manda" had such a severe terror of fl ying that she had not been on a plane for 19 years. She called me to set up an EFT appointment because an important family event was taking place in a few months and she didn't want to miss it. But attending the event would involve a 5-hour fl ight. She was nearly hopeless yet determined to face her fears.
As our EFT session began, I gathered history and found that
she did have some traumatic memories from her few fl ying experi- ences long ago. In one case, a plane had not pressurized correctly and in another the plane had to be diverted because of fog. The feeling in her body when she thought about being on a plane was, "a little like throwing up -- sick to my stomach."
We started tapping using her words and focusing on the body sensation she felt, which we measured as a 6-7 on a scale of 1-10. “Even though I feel sick to my stomach, when I think about fl ying, I deeply love and accept myself...”
At the end of the round of tapping, Amanda said, "What both- ers me is thinking about the plane in the air. All I can think about is a lack of support and falling. It's a sensation like I'm going to fall any second!" This felt like a horrible dread in her stomach, an 8 in intensity, again on a scale of 1-10. So we tapped again using her words, “Even though I feel like I'm going to fall any second, I deeply love and accept myself...”
Something popped into my head during the course of that tapping and I shared the thought with Amanda. "You know, it's interesting that your fear of fl ying is really about fear of falling. I've heard that the fear of falling is one of the few natural fears that we
14 Essential Living Maine ~ November/December 2016
Was it Really Fear of Flying? A
By Karen
St.Clair, AAMET EFT Practitioner
are born with. Babies have an innate fear of falling." This seemed to ring a bell with her and she said, "You know, the whole time I've been visualizing myself falling through the sky!" So once again we used her words for tapping, “Even though I visualize myself falling through the sky, I deeply love and accept myself... and it's time to bring some healing to this...”
As we tapped the points, I gave her some blanks to fi ll in: I visualize myself falling through the sky... and I think it goes
back to___ I visualize myself falling through the sky... and I feel____ and _______(what else?)
As she completed the sentences, she was tuning in more and more to the feeling, "I think it goes back to being very
young...and I feel terrifi
ed...and no one's going to catch me! And I'm going to hit! And it's going to hurt! And it all makes me feel really sad!" So we tapped again, using her words, “Even though I am terrifi ed because no one is going to catch me... and it makes me feel...
sad...this
sadness...this little one is
falling...afraid no one is going to catch her...terrifi ed...I'm going to
hit...it's going to hurt.. so sad.. I love and accept this little child.”
Amanda was feeling very emotional and tears were coming. She said, "I believe I had some early childhood trauma. My sister was 6 years older and hated me intensely. I think she probably did hurt me sometimes. I think she did things to scare me. I wonder if she threw me up and didn't catch me!"
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