MARCH 2016 Who’s The Boss? By Judith R. Meredith, LPC, LLC Working. We all have to do it. Some are fortunate and
like what they do to pay the bills. Some, less fortunate. Take for example, the age-old problem of working for an ogre. Ogres come in many forms, ranging from the annoy- ing to the downright evil, and they can make your life mis- erable. What can you do? Family therapists like to use a
phrase, “reframe.” In a nutshell, reframing is taking a situ- ation and seeing it from a completely different perspective, putting a new “frame” around it.
In the bad boss situation, this might mean that you shift your perspective to un-
derstand that, in truth, you work for your clients, customers, the people who you serve, not the boss. This shift in perspective will not reform an ogre, as was the case in the popular Shrek movies, but it will def- initely allow you to release yourself from your bad boss’s influence. Once this new perspective has al-
lowed you to disconnect from the drama that bad bosses create, you may find that you are calmer and less apt to “play into” the bad boss’s drama-rama. You may be able to take pride in what you do and feel satisfied about serving a larger purpose through benefiting the whole. Some- times, consultation with a counselor can help you to see how to create and apply this “re-frame” in your daily working life by allowing you to adopt the new per- spective, then practice and drill it until you become “reformed.” And, isn’t it better and easier to renew your perspec- tive as opposed to taking on an ogre? Change the world by changing your-
self. It’s a challenge, but it is do-able. Reforming an ogre? Not so much.
A note from Judith Meredith: As a professional counselor, I
have been blessed with more than 20 wonderful years of helping many delightful clients. Much of what I write reflects the important things that I have learned along my path. Also, I have enjoyed teaching college courses in my field, both graduate and undergrad, so I keep up with what is new! In my writing, I seek to provide
support, education, guidance, coaching, and some reality-checking for people along their journey. My hope is that, as you read my words, you, too, will be guided, nurtured, and informed in claiming your joy and purpose as a member of the kingdom of God.
In coming months Judi will share
her insights with our readers, touch- ing on some of her valuable ‘truths’ accumulated over the years.
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