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many reasons why the single person is left out, so don’t take it personally. What you need to understand is that this is not about you. It’s about the way your friends feel about your situation - or their own. Some people are threatened if they are not in a perfect relationship and seeing you happy might make them feel uncomfortable. Coco Johnson a therapist in private practice in, Ontario, Canada helps her patients understand what might be going on socially around them. She helps her patients see that “It


is better to be alone than lonely in a relationship. Sometimes people are very lonely and have very terrible lives while married; they just didn’t anticipate the loss of their marriage.” Johnson’s advice is that “it isn’t catastrophic to be alone, especially if you came from a marriage where you were lonely.”


Here are some tips to overcoming your loneliness:


Pursue your passions and interests Living your life by doing the things you enjoy will open up a whole new world of people and opportunity. It also provides you with the chance to meet people with similar interests.


Be adventurous - and move out- side your comfort zone. Jumping the hurdles of your uneasiness by doing something you enjoy alone will give you greater confidence, while making you a more interesting person with experi- ences to share.


Follow your dreams If you’ve al- ways wanted to study a new language,


take a course, join a conversational group or do it in style - learn it in France or Spain. There are lots of ways to travel and not feel alone.


Make new single friends Ask your friends if they know of some- one single to introduce you to, not for a romantic relationship but friendship. Be daring, go to a singles event on your own; after all, that’s why people are there - to meet others.


Be happy and honest with yourself It is important to admit to the loneliness, because sometimes it’s that loneliness that will drive you out and sets you on the path to find a partner. If you find you need encouragement, want to be introspective and overcome your obstacles, then perhaps work it through with a therapist, support group, or a trusted friend. Divorce is rich in opportunities to


learn and grow. Over time, you will build a more interesting social network than the one you had while married. There are times that you will feel


lonely, but that is part of what it means to be divorced, and once you embrace that feeling instead of pretending you’re never lonely, it opens up the joys of solitude and time to reach out to the world to search out that which makes you happy.


Deborah Moskovitch is a Divorce Coach and Founder of The Smart Divorce: Proven Strategies and valuable advice from 100 Top Divorce Lawyers, Financial Advisers, Counselors and other experts.


WEBSITE: thesmartdivorce.com


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