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anger they may be experiencing. This gives you an opportunity to provide comfort and reassure them that they will be loved and continue to be cared for and safe ● Let them be honest. Children might be reluctant to share their true feelings for fear of hurting you. Let them know that whatever they say is okay. If they aren’t able to share it, they will have a harder time working through it. ● VERY IMPORTANT: If they are very angry or upset, encourage them to fully experience and express their anger and emotions. Say things like ‘I see you are very angry, show me how angry you can be’. When they show you by screaming and crying and yelling, tell them that you want to see more and more. Once they have fully experienced the emotion, it will pass and they will probably


just cry and be sad. Be sure to allow them to fully experience all their emotions or this could have serious repercussions later on in their lives ● Acknowledge their feelings. You may not be able to fix their problems or change their sadness to happiness, but it is important for you to acknowledge their feelings. You can also inspire trust by showing that you understand ● Clearing up misunderstandings - Many kids believe that they had something to do with the divorce, recalling times they argued with their parents, received poor grades, or got in trouble. You can help your kids let go of this misconception. ● Set the record straight. Repeat why you decided to get a divorce. Sometimes hearing the real reason


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for your decision can help ● Be patient. Kids may seem to “get it” one day and be unsure the next. Treat your child’s confusion or misunderstandings with patience ● Reassure. As often as you need to, remind your children that both parents will continue to love them and that they are not responsible for the divorce ● Give reassurance and love - Children have a remarkable ability to heal when given the support and love they need. Your words, actions, and ability to remain consistent are all important tools to reassure your children of your unchanging love. ● Both parents will be there. Let your kids know that even though the physical circumstances of the family unit will change, they can continue


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