SUNDAY, JUNE 13, 2010


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The Post Puzzler No. 10 ACROSS


1 Vibrant multicolored gem


10 Trojan War suicide victim 14 “We’ve all been waiting!” 15 Comic book hero Dr. ___ Banner, a.k.a. the Hulk


16 Sci-fi props 17 Closes a case 18 Among other things, in legalese


19 Source of moscato bianco grapes


20 Better at science than social studies?


NICK GALIFIANAKIS FOR THE WASHINGTON POST


Don’t let ‘waiting time’ become wasted time


While I’m away, readers give the advice: On waiting to get something you’ve


always wanted from life:


When I was single, childless and careerless, a friend said, “What are the things you won’t have time for, once relationship/child/job come along? Get busy doing those, and relish them. The day will come when you’ll realize what a gift this waiting time was.” So I relished. I hiked, I biked, I sewed, I


decorated, I read books, I played music, I danced, I hung out with friends, I cruised thrift stores.


It took a long time for the things on my list to come to me. And now I’m so glad I took the opportunities my “waiting time” gave me — because now, I don’t see it as waiting time, but time that I used to enjoy all those things that are now so hard to find time for now.


Anonymous On the need to live independently


before committing to someone else: My wife grew up in a home with a


hypochondriac mother and attended parochial schools. She married her first husband to “get out of the house.” He was cleaved to his mother and made her a secondary citizen, slightly above the level of the children. She met me and ultimately left him. We moved in together and after a couple of years married and had a son (she had two others previously). One day she came to me and declared


that she wanted a divorce. We did not have significant issues in our marriage; the money and kids were not problems nor were any of the other “usual suspects.” Her explanation: She was turning 40


and, having never “been on her own,” wanted to not be tied to anyone (other than the kids, of course). While I completely understood her predicament and need to explore life on her own, it was the most devastating thing


CAROLYN HAX


that has ever happened to me. I never saw anything coming; I could not eat or sleep for months and lost about 40 pounds, sacrificed all of my property and assets to benefit the children and missed out on the day-to-day interaction that I would ordinarily have enjoyed with my son. Today I am happy she had the courage to do what she felt she needed to do despite the ramifications. We have always maintained a very close and friendly relationship and our son, now a grown man, is an outstanding young fellow. I would rather she chose this path than have her suffer another 20 years of unhappiness; it would have probably been worse for all of us. Would things have been different had she gone to college and lived in a dorm? Should she have found a roommate and lived it up? Being a “good” Catholic girl in those days probably precluded that, but the tonic must have worked, for she has remained single and on her own for 20 years now. After learning the hard way, I believe


everyone needs to be on their own when they are young. In college, in the military, traveling, whatever . . . get out, meet new and different people and learn about who you are and what you want to be in life.


Cleveland


Write to Tell Me About It, Style, 1150 15th St. NW, Washington, D.C. 20071, or tellme@washpost. com.


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 For Ask Amy, the Daily Horoscope and this week’s Cul de Sac cartoon, turn to Page E10. E


Engagements | Weddings | Anniversaries ——Engagements——


Bethany Frye& Todd Kerley


—October 2011—


To place an announcement: email: weddings@washpost.com phone: 202-334-5736 fax: 202-334-7188 Anniversaries


Del Buono 25th Anniversary


—June 15, 1985—


Hollis 65th Anniversary —June 16, 1945—


Havens 50th Anniversary


—June 12, 1960—


Kruse Golden Anniversary


—June 11, 1960—


21 Spurred (on) 23 Living room sets 25 Chapter in history 26 Friend of Hedda in “Hedda Gabler”


27 Plant of the mint family 28 Economist Steven who co-wrote “Freakonomics”


32 Like cold showers? 34 Imbecilic 36 Auto service chain founded in 1921


37 RFK and others 38 Reveal the painful truth, maybe


39 Portraitist Holbein 40 Stop order? 42 Blowgun pellet 45 List fi nisher: Abbr. 46 Property dispute participants, often


47 Wanted poster’s antithesis?


49 As a result 51 Reduces to fragments


ANSWER TO LAST WEEK’S PUZZLE


BL O W S A F U S E CR I B AU D I T I O N E D RO N A TZ I P I L I V N I AC T S HO S E D LE D S SK E E EN T R E E IS O T H E R M SA H L NE T T L E


RI I S SU S S SE T O N EN D L A T E DI S S E C T AT E I T SC A M TS K S SH A D O W OK E D CE L E B R E X DE B A R K EL M S IN C A SA L O N N OAH SN O W M O B I L E DO T O TI M E S T A B L E SP E W SO B S T O R I E S


53 Play for time 54 What optimists tend to stress


55 Handled badly? 56 Instrument that’s taken up 57 Rolling pin 58 Commercial experiment


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1 Column topper 2 Temporary replacement 3 Sidestroke alternative 4 Religious statement 5 Chairman of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee


6 Sister in Chekhov’s “Three Sisters”


7 Charlie’s wife before Oona 8 After dark 9 “Gil Blas” author


10 Father of Deimos 11 “You couldn’t have it more wrong!”


12 Part of a schoolteacher’s lesson plan


13 Makes one’s mark, maybe 15 Pixar director Bird


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19 23 24 By Patrick Berry • Edited by Peter Gordon • www.fireballcrosswords.com


22 Lightens 24 “___ you!” 27 The Philippines’ “Queen City of the South”


29 Denouements 30 Ancient Rome’s seven 31 Bedazzled 33 They require many turns to play: Abbr.


34 1968 U.S. Open winner 35 Common paycheck deduction


36 Low class 38 Drink from a bottle 41 Condemn, as a stage villain


43 Stays a step ahead of 44 Partner of recording exec Moss


46 Cargo area 47 Manhattan clam chowder seasoning


48 Zero 50 Series set in Lima, Ohio 52 Pique condition? 53 Treatment center


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Mr. and Mrs. Del Buono Bethany Frye and Todd Kerley


Mr. and Mrs. John Frye of Glen Burnie, Maryland, are proud to announce the engagement of their daughter, Bethany Frye, to Todd Kerley, son of Neal and Kris Kerley of Severna Park, Maryland. Ms. Frye graduated cum laude with a B.A. in Communication Arts from Salisbury University, has an M.S. in Communication Management from Towson University and is cur- rently a marketing associate at CDR Fundraising Group in Bowie, Mary- land. Mr. Kerley graduated with a B.S in Computer Science from Frostburg State University, and works as a soft- ware engineer for Northrop Grumman in Linthicum, Maryland. The couple is planning an October 2011 wedding in Ocean City, Maryland. They will con- tinue to live in Baltimore city after they are married.


Brian and Sandra (DiFelice) Del Buono of Clifton, Virginia, were married on June 15, 1985 at St. Rocco’s Church, Martin’s Creek, Pennsylvania. They are blessed with two sons, Matthew and Michael. Your family wishes you all the blessings and love for many more anniversaries. Momand Dad


Mr. and Mrs. Hollis


Miller Golden Anniversary


—June 4, 1960—


Grow old with me, the best is yet to be!


Congratulations to Tom & Valerie Hol- lis who will celebrate 65 years of mar- riage on June 16, 2010. A reception was held in their honor on June 13th at their church, Fairlington Presbyter- ian Church in Alexandria, Virignia. The couple has two daughters and four grandchildren. Their enduring love and devotion is an inspiration for all who share in their life.


PLANNING A WEDDING? FREE COPY REGISTER NOW to receive your


of TheWashington Post Wedding Planner.


washingtonpost.com/ weddingplanner


Mr. and Mrs. Price Mr. and Mrs. Miller ——Anniversaries——


Ainaire Silver Anniversary


—June 12, 1985—


Ellen and Rob with three beautiful children and three adorable grandchil- dren celebrate 25 years of marriage!


Jesse and Rose Miller have celebrated 50 consecutive years of marriage! Their love and commitment for the past five decades have been shared with their children Katrina and Jesse, Jr., their grandchildren, Jesse III, Mari- ah, and Jordan, and also a host of friends and relatives. This special event included a weeklong vacation and will be a feature at the annual family reunion to be held in Chesa- peake, Virginia in July.


Mr. and Mrs. Leonard S. Price cele- brate the long lasting love and devo- tion they have shared for 60 years on June 12, 2010. One by one each year flew by, since you both said "I do," 60 years of memories, shared by the two of you. From big events and holidays to simple daily pleasures.Sometearful times along life's way, some joys that can't be measured...one by one each year now gone, but still yours forev- er...Each and every memory of sixty years together. All our love Craig, Linda,Kirk, and family.


Declare Your Love!


Announce your Engagement,Wedding or Anniversary in The Washington Post’s Sunday Arts & Style Section. (Birthdays, Graduations & other Special Events have moved to Thursdays.) You may provide text and photos. Color is available. Many packages include keepsake plaques of your announcement.


To place an order and for more information, including rates: Contact Alexa McMahon at: weddings@washpost.com Or call 202.334.5736, toll free 877.POST.WED, fax 202.334.7188


All materials must be received by Monday at 1 p.m.


Mr. and Mrs. Havens


Frances Jones and Harry Havens were married on June 12, 1960, in Oxford, North Carolina. They now celebrate 50 years of a happy marriage.


Price 60th Anniversary —June 12, 1950—


Mr. and Mrs. Kruse


From all of us, Happy 50th Wedding Anniversary! To be together for 50 years is truly special, you are role models for us all. May you have many more years of love and happiness together! Love, Terri, Kevin, Jason, Kristine, Justin, Diane, Joe, Ryan, Danielle, Max, Jason Jr. and Megan.


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