your life
man, the BernernullHanley nullrofessor
in nullerontology, nullevelopmental and
nullamily nulltudies at nullurdue nullniversity, ‘The Empty Nest
has studied the dynamics between
adult children and their parents. e null
found that parentsnull relationships
with their onullspring improved signull
nificantly after the kids moved out.
nullnullnce the daily hassles of raising
adolescents—the arguments over
curfews and messy rooms—are no {
Syndrome really is a
myth...the vast majority
of mothers said they
were happier now that
their children were {
longer in the parentsfnull aces,null inger null
man said, nullthings get better.null
out of the house.null
nullf course, not everyone sails
through the transition. nullccording more, develop hobbies, nulloin a book club. nullet back Look Ahead
to nullubenstein, about one in ten counull to things that interested you before you became nullpend that last
ples find that losing the glue of chilnull a parent.null year readying
dren pulls them permanently apart. Herenulls a bonusnull nullechnology makes it easier for yourselnull. nullenullelop
nullnd roughly one in ten parents have parents to feel connected to their children even hobbies or nulloin
deep, persistent feelings of grief that when they are far away. null spontaneous tenullt or a club.
may renulluire professional help. email allows parents and kids the chance to share
nullnullhey tend to be people who were a moment—a far cry from the days when kids made
prone to depression,null nullubinstein oncenullanullweek calls on a dorm pay phone.
said. nullnullf the sadness lasts more than a nullherenulls another thing to keep in mind as you
year, there are probably other factors. wave goodnullbye to your children. nullith soaring
nulltnulls not nullust about the kids leaving.null unemployment rates and high housing costs, the
nullhose who do best with the shift odds are enullcellent that they will be back. null nullnullnull
are the ones who have solid marnull nullnullnullnullnullnullnull report found that onenullthird of the work
riages and who have established force under age nullnullis living with their parents. Good to Know
themselves in roles beyond parentnull nullnullhese days, it is almost a privilege to have an Parentsnullrelation null
ing. nullhey have also put time and ennull empty nest,nullsaid nullubenstein. ships with their
ergy into preparing themselves for children impronulle
the day when their last child moves out. significantly anullter
nullYou really need to spend that last year readynull David & Veronica’s Story the kids monulle out.
ing yourself,nullsaid nullubenstein. nullnullee your friends nullavid nullames is a father of three grown chilnull
dren who blogs about his and wife nulleronicanulls
travels on www.gypsynester.com. He says
Melody’s Story they spent the years before their youngest
nullelody Brooke, a nullenullas mother of three son graduated from high school thinking
who was an actor before she had children, about what would happen nenullt.
returned to her craft. nullnullhen my twins nullnulle even googled nullempty nestnull at one
went onullto college, it was a double wham null point—and it seemed like everything we
my,nullshe said. nullnullhe house was so nulluiet.null read was negative,null said nullames, who instead
nullhen she started going to auditions. saw it as an opportunity for he and his wife Silver Lining
nullnull got some roles,null she said, nulland the nenullt to reconnect. nullhey sold their house and hit nullnullt ginulles you a
thing you know null have an agent. nullnullnullve been in the road. chance to really
commercials, print ads, videos and indie nullnullt gives you a chance to really see why see why you got
feature films. nullnulltnulls been fun to have my old you got married in the first place,nullsaid married in the first
avocation back. nullt makes it much easier to nullames. nullHere is this gift—you get to be place. nullerenulls this
deal with the girls being so far away.null together again.null ginulltnullyou get to be
together again.null
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