BERNIE
By Bernie Siegel, MD What Does Every Woman Want?
that the organized crime group involved had threatened to break every bone in his body—or worse—if he did not pay up. He said when he told them he had no funds available and asked if he could repay the debt in some other way he was told that if he married the crime lord’s daughter they would let him off. He said the offer was made because “she was an ugly witch
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you could smell a mile away”. The problem was that, unbe- knownst to the underworld characters involved, my friend was already married. He said he felt there was no hope for him, and his addiction would cost him his life. At this point I volunteered to marry the witch and save him. He argued, but I persisted. To make a long story short, the marriage was arranged and a few weeks later the witch and I were wed at a big blast in a well known New York Hotel. I did the best I could to put on a pleasant face for the evening but as it grew late I told my bride I needed to go to our hotel room and get some rest and she agreed to come with me. When we got to the room I went into the bathroom to catch my breath and try to fi gure out how I was going to manage to just get through the night—let alone the years that lay ahead of us. After spending as much time as I could in hiding I stepped out of the bathroom to fi nd a beautiful woman sitting on the edge of the bed. “Where’s my wife?” “It’s me. Now that you are my husband I can reveal to you
that a spell was cast upon me. I am a beautiful woman for twelve hours and a witch for twelve hours. Now that you are my hus- band my schedule is your choice. I can be beautiful during the day and impress the neighbors or at night for your pleasure. Tell me what you would prefer.”
any years ago a childhood friend of mine, due to a gam- bling addiction, got into a diffi cult situation involving some very signifi cant debts. One day he shared with me
I knew from my mother’s wisdom that there was only one
correct answer and I shared it with her, “Do what will make you happy”.
She answered, “You have freed me from the spell. I can be
beautiful twenty four hours a day now.” And she has for over fi fty years.
What does every woman want? Yes, a life of her own! Several
years ago my wife and I were speaking in a southern city, and we interacted as we would at home. My wife, Bobbie, is free to cor- rect me and has her time on stage. I could feel the hostility in the audience towards my wife and me. Later when talking to one of the women I knew, she said the hostility had to do with the rela- tionship they saw my wife and me display. They were confusing the place of politeness versus submissiveness. And because they had become submissive in their marriages they had internalized their anger and were expressing it towards me. It is vital for women who want to remain healthy to do what feels right so that it is not an intellectual decision as to whether you have a career or become a housewife. I have a drawing by a woman entitled, “Will the real me please stand up”. She drew a picture of herself split down the middle with half being the profes- sional me holding a black purse and the other half, the mommy me, holding her daughter’s hand. It doesn’t take an art therapist to see who is smiling and who is frowning and which one her heart desires to be. So do not wait for a life threatening illness to give you permission to go home and be with your child. I will also add that if the desire of others imposes the life of a homemaker upon you and you want to be a lawyer or opera singer then again, do what makes you happy. If you have twin sisters—one of whom always strives to please her parents, make everyone happy by doing whatever they want and be a good girl who internalizes anger—while her sister is a
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