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Believe me; you won’t be able to just walk away. No matter how long or short time you have been together, you will not be able to ignore the ‘what if’ monster which will invade your mind. ‘What if he/she is the one?’ ‘What if it would have worked out but because you’re not going to try you’ll never know how good it could’ve been?’ The problem is, the ‘what if’ monster has a point. If you don’t try then you will always look back and think about what might have been. You could spend years believing that you walked away from the love of your life when actually if you’d given it a go you might have found out within a month that he/ she was an uncaring cheat who was a complete waste of your time. Sure it might hurt, but at least you’ll know. Walking away is not an option.


Distance relationships make you cry. There is just something about them which heightens your emotional vulnerability; they make you hurt inside like you never have before – I guess they teach you what heartache really is. The best way to cope is by immersing yourself in your new setting. Meet new people, make friends, go outside and explore; your boyfriend or girlfriend is only going to feel more upset if they hear that all you are doing is


sitting in your room moping and watching rom-coms or playing video games.


Besides, what are you going to tell them when you finally get to catch up over the phone or online? That you watched Bridget Jones for the hundredth time, or that you got a new high score on your favourite game? It’s good to have something new to talk about, because those catch ups can get pretty monotonous if you don’t actually do anything besides studying and moping.


However you spend your time apart, the best thing about a distance relationship are the times when you finally get to be together. Those moments become so much more special than when they were a regular occurrence. You will be the happiest couple out there and you won’t be able to stop smiling! You will get to go explore new places together, try new things, and finally get to kiss and cuddle like you have been craving for the past few weeks/months. Those days are what make all of the heartache and tears worthwhile.


But remember, what goes up must come down. After one of those visits it is inevitable that


you will have a movie style close- the-door-and-slide-down-it-into-a- crumpled-mess-of-tears moment. What, you don’t believe me? Are you a guy reading this and thinking ‘whatever, my girlfriend might do that but I won’t’? Well then you wait and see how you just seem to lose those games on your console just after she leaves. Perhaps you’ll even get angry with the game and throw a man-strop about how unfair it is or how the game was glitching, but deep down you’ll know the real reason you’re not playing well. You’re a man in a long distance relationship and it sucks.


My first long distance relationship failed after a few months and I later realised that subconsciously I had wanted it to anyway, but my second and current relationship transformed into a normal close relationship after surviving 2 years of distance and is still going strong. What it comes down to is the willingness to try, and also to understand what the other person is going through. You’re the one moving away, but they’re the one being left behind whilst you go and learn new and exciting things and meet different people. It’s hard for them too.


Good luck everybody, the emotional rollercoaster is boarding now, buckle up.


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