What are some best practices once you commit to the
process? Don’t write an online profile that’s full of adjectives, activities and clichés. Tell- ing a story that illustrates who you are is much more enticing. Post a picture taken within the past year, have a clever user name and write initial emails that are funny and confident.
I like the idea of flirting with a potentially special someone online, moving from email to the phone and making plans for a real-life date over the course of about a week. That’s a good, organic process. My preference is to meet for drinks on a Saturday night, but it doesn’t have to be cocktails if that’s not your scene. I just like the romantic at- mosphere of meeting for drinks because dinner dates tend to be too static and coffee dates are too casual. The goal is not to meet tons of peo-
ple as quickly as possible. The goal is to build up trust and rapport via email and phone communications, so that when you do go on a first date, it’s comfort- able and actually feels like a second date. I encourage my clients to go on real dates, not interviews.
Many people make a list of qualities they desire in a partner. What do you think
should top that list? The things that sustain a marriage are kindness, consistency, compromise, laughter, shared values and trust. Those should be at the top of your list, instead of height, weight, age or income. The problem is that such qualities may not appear in someone’s online profile or even on the first date. Too many couples make decisions based on chemistry, and that can be a terrible predictor of success for a lasting roman- tic relationship.
Connect with a health conscious, envi- ronmentally aware, spiritually evolved friend and mate at NaturalAwakenings
Singles.com. Reach Evan Marc Katz at
EvanMarcKatz.com.
Kim Childs is a writer and creativity coach in Boston. Visit
KimChilds.com.
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