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Dear Laurie, Recently, I decided to make some major lifestyle changes for
personal reasons. I stopped drinking and smoking, started eating healthier, and working out regularly. At first, my friends were supportive, if not somewhat indulgent, but now after a couple of months, I’ve found that my social life has… well, lost its life. I’m no longer invited to the group hangouts, or nights out – many of which include drinking and partying. I’m not opposed to still going out – I’d even be their DD, but it seems like they’ve forgotten about me. It’s getting to the point where I feel like I should try to make some new friends, but since I’m single, not in school, and work at a small company, I don’t know where to begin. How can I reconnect with this group, or at least meet other fun people?! – Lonely in SWFL
Dear Lonely in SWFL, Congratulations!! I’m so proud of you! You’ve made tremendous
changes, and change is a natural part of life. It’s not always easy when your friends aren’t there for you, and you may have feelings of rejection. I suggest allowing a little space between you and the old gang. You’re going through a big readjustment and are now living in a healthier, more positive way. I believe that you will soon attract new friends, but you must be
willing to let go of the people who are mostly interested in drinking and partying. That was the old you. It doesn’t mean that they are wrong or bad people. It just means that it’s time for you to go your separate ways, at least temporarily. A whole new world is waiting for you! Hold onto the positive memories, have kind thoughts about them, and stay open to expressing yourself in new ways. Fill your spare time with activities that you find interesting, and
you will meet new people with the same interests. Do some research and pursue hobbies that you enjoy – enroll in a continuing education class, sign up for a pottery or cooking lessons; join a tennis, hiking or biking league; or find a book club in your area. Become a member of one of the many local
Meetup.com groups for activities ranging from volleyball to paddleboard to photography. Sign up for a beach body boot camp, yoga, or other group fitness class where you have an opportunity to meet and mingle with new faces. Consider breaking out of your comfort zone - take lessons at a
dance, yoga or karate studio. Volunteer and have fun meeting people while helping others at the same time. A good resource to check out is
www.volunteermatch.org. Start attending events hosted by Young Professionals. It’s a great local organization offering many opportunities to not only promote your business and network with peers, but also to get involved with their philanthropic efforts, or have fun at monthly socials and athletic events –
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the way. Just imagine magnetizing them to you right now… and soon they will become part of your new reality.
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About the Writer: LAURIE MARTIN is a national speaker and teacher of self-love and empowerment. As a certified life coach, author, and advice columnist, she shares her passion and knowledge, guiding others to tap into their own inspiration. Laurie left the corporate world as a Vice President of Events and has been committed and dedicated to inspiring others. She is also the author of Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-Love. For more information, log onto
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