STRAIGHT TALK, NO CHASER


How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man Steve Harvey


with Denene Millner


Times bestselling author Steve Harvey tells it like it is in matters of love, sex and marriage. His 2009 relationship guide, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, was a runaway hit—the second bestselling book of 2009, spending 60 weeks on the New York Times list, with sales of over two million copies worldwide. Always frank and funny, the twice-divorced, but now happily married Harvey shares the unvarnished truth about love from a male perspective—a rare commodity in relationship wars—and women have come to trust his plain-spoken advice on how they can stop wasting time with good-for-nothing guys and find a worthy man to settle down with. In STRAIGHT TALK, NO CHASER: How to Find,


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Keep, and Understand a Man Harvey again teams up with Denene Millner to offer insights into what motivates men, and how women tap that knowledge to build long- lasting relationships with good men who will love them, respect them, and treat them the way they want to be treated. Harvey’s fundamental


premise is disarmingly simple: understand how a man thinks about matters of the heart, and you take the power in a relationship. And men, he says, are incredibly simple be- ings who come at every situation from the same angle, us- ing the same principles, seldom deviating. With his no-nonsense candor, Harvey breaks down the fundamentals, with a guide to how men feel about relation- ships at different ages—from their twenties to their fifties and beyond. He explodes the myth that men are intimidat- ed by successful women, explaining that it is only the atti- tude of certain women that sends men running in the op- posite direction. To find a man who is ready to commit, a woman must learn to ask the right questions to get the real answers. “To do this successfully, though, you’ll have to wrap your head around and understand one basic thing about us men,” he says. “No matter the question, we will always give you the answer that will make us look the best.” Women need to keep probing, taking the discussion to that essential third question that will begin to get at the truth, and Harvey walks women through the process with some real scenarios. Harvey pulls no punches, offering the naked truth about


what men expect from women. They must take pride in their appearances, show their men some appreciation for the things they do, and refrain from nagging about the small stuff. For a long-term relationship to work, a woman needs to understand how a man views financial matters and that they need to work through money problems together. Relationships are ongoing negotiations, and there must be


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s millions of listeners of his top-rated nationally syn- dicated radio show know, comedian and #1 New York


give and take for things to work. And then there is “the Cookie”—Har- vey’s code word for sex—the one thing every man wants more than any other. He provides five steps for turning up the heat with your man, stressing that women are in control on the domestic front and that they need to wield the power they have to get what they want—respect, love, commitment. While hosting relationship seminars across the country and fielding


calls from his Steve Harvey Morning Show, Harvey hears the same burn- ing questions from women time and again. In STRAIGHT TALK, NO CHASER, he attempts to answer those questions—from “Do men be- lieve in love at first sight?” (Yes, but it’s only a physical attraction) and “Why do men continue to lie?” (Because the truth will get them deeper in trouble) to “Are men influenced by friends when it comes to commit- ment?” (Absolutely) and “What makes men happy?” (The Cookie). The answers, while not always what a woman might want to hear, underscore the candor with which Harvey delivers his patented brand of advice. “You [women] hold the key to a successful relationship,” Harvey says.


“I understand that many women don’t quite care to embrace the idea that the burden of getting the union they want rests squarely on their shoul- ders, but it is what it is….Change your approach, take back your power, and hold your chin up while working on getting the love you deserve.” Harper Collins Publishers


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