Presenter: Lecturer:
Track 2.18 So far in this course we’ve looked at making friends and also how to keep friends.
In this lecture, we’re going to look at these ideas in more detail. Some people seem to make friends easily. They are popular and have few problems with relationships. On this occasion, we’re not looking at the work of a psychologist or a piece of research. This is a theory from a management consultant called Tim Melville-Ross. The theory is based on his experiences in management from the 1990s. So let’s look at what he said.
Melville-Ross divided people into two types: radiators and drains. In general English, a radiator is a device for giving out heat. A drain is a hole for taking away water. For example, there are drains in the street for rainwater. There is a drain in your shower.
Melville-Ross said that, in his experience, radiators give out energy whereas drains take it away. Radiators are happy and enthusiastic. They listen to you and help you with your problems. They don’t usually take their problems out on you. According to Melville-Ross, radiators don’t try to put you down. Most importantly, they like everyone to be happy. So the point is, people who are radiators are usually popular and successful.
On the other hand, drains bring people down to make themselves feel better. They think their problems are the most important and like to be the centre of attention. They complain a lot and are generally pessimistic and negative. Often people don’t realize that they’re drains. So the first step in changing is awareness.
So, to sum up, it is much better to be a radiator than a drain. Everyone loves radiators and radiators love other radiators. It is also better to be with a radiator. Look for the positive in everything and be enthusiastic and encouraging. It will help those around you improve the quality of their lives.
Presenter: Voices:
Theme 3: Managing to be successful Track 3.1
1. How come they have time to have fun? 2. I always have so much work to do. 3. I am SO late. The lecturer is going to be furious. 4. I’m never going to finish all this tonight. 5. If only we had a bigger flat. 6. It’s difficult. Every time I sit down to study somewhere, my friends turn up. 7. The lecture is boring but you still shouldn’t fall asleep. 8. The tutorial started at 9.00. Where have you been? 9. We get a lot of work done together in our study group.
Presenter: Lecturer:
Track 3.2
I’m going to talk to you today about a problem. It is a problem which all of us face at one time or another. It’s a problem which starts when you are a student. If you don’t solve it then, it will get worse and worse. When you leave university and get a job, the problem will follow you. The problem is managing time. It is so important that Harvard Business Press published a whole book on the subject in 2006. Melissa Raffoni wrote in the introduction, ‘Managing your time is much more than making a To Do list …’ Let’s see what managing time is all about.
Presenter: Lecturer:
Track 3.3
Firstly, I’m going to talk to you about the reason for managing time – Why do we have to manage our time? Then, I’m going to explain the basic equation of time management. You know equations from mathematics. One plus two equals three. Well, there is a basic equation in time management which is very useful. Finally, I’m going to look at ways of making the equation balance. As I’m sure you know from maths, equations must balance – both sides must be the same. How can you make the time management equation balance?
Presenter: Lecturer:
Track 3.4
So, first, why must we manage our time? The reason is simple. If we don’t manage our time today, the problem will be worse tomorrow. Let me explain.
This is the basic equation of time management. On one side, we have work. On the other side, we have time available. Equations must balance. Both sides must be the same. Work must equal time available. In other words, we must have enough time to do the work we have to do. How can we ensure that work equals time available?
Let’s start with the work side of the equation. You could try to reduce the amount of work that people give you to do. Some management books say that you must prioritize. You must decide what is important. Other books tell you to say no to work. But that’s very difficult when you are studying. Everything is important. Which things can you refuse to do? None. Tutors expect you to complete all assignments on time. They don’t want you to miss lectures because you are behind with your written work. Alternatively, you could try to increase the time available. You could get up an hour earlier, or go to bed later, or you could reduce the number of breaks during the day, but I’m not going to tell you to do that. Rest and relaxation is just as important as work, to my mind.
So we can’t reduce the amount of work we are given and we shouldn’t try to work every hour of the day and night. Are there any other alternatives?
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