inspiration
Italians call it la dolce far niente, or the sweetness of doing
nothing, while the Dutch word niksen translates as “doing some- thing without a purpose”. Here are a few tips to reclaim the art of be-ing over do-ing.
Create a “do nothing” ritual. Set aside a special time and make it known. It can start the morning or wind down an evening. It may be meditating a few minutes or enjoying a bit of aroma- therapy, wherever the heart leads.
Relax into the moment. Acknowledge guilty feelings when they arise, but don’t heed them. It takes time to undo mental programming and learn to quiet the voice urging, “Don’t just stand there, do something!”
Mindfully do nothing. It’s not about vegging out with pas- sive activities like watching TV or checking email. It’s a time to come alive to our senses and surroundings, whether listening to music or people-watching, free of distractions from phone calls or anxious thoughts.
DOING NOTHING Why Timeouts Matter
by April Thompson I
n a harried world where our work is never done, it’s tough to take timeouts to do nothing. Yet, when we pump the brakes on Americans’ obsessive drive, we discover fresh productivity,
creativity and contentment. “We’re socialized to pride ourselves on accomplishment
and achievement, yet when you step back, you realize doing nothing produces a valuable currency, especially in enhanced mental health,” says Colleen Long, a Boston psychologist and author of Happiness in B.A.L.A.N.C.E: What We Know Now About Happiness.
Doing something is okay. T e aim is to let go of the com- pulsion to check off every item on our to-do list—but that doesn’t mean blankly staring off into space. T ese are purposeful mo- ments without a specifi c purpose. Doodle in a sketchbook, wander around the neighborhood or lie in the grass and look at clouds. Spontaneously go with the fl ow.
T ere’s no one way or right way to do nothing. “Just by carving out space, you’ll get a benefi t even if it doesn’t feel like you’re doing it right or perfectly,” advises Long. It looks diff erent for diff erent people. “Before I had kids, my ‘nothing time’ might be just being out in nature or simply doing one thing mindfully at a time, like washing dishes. Now I incorporate the principle into family time. One day a week, I shut off the phone, get on the fl oor with my kids and just let life get messy.”
Connect with April T ompson, in Washington, D.C., at
AprilWrites.com.
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