LIVING WELL


“I have a limited tolerance for feeling good. When I hit my Upper Limit, I manufacture thoughts that make me feel bad. The problem is bigger than just my internal feelings, though: I seem to have a limited tolerance for my life going well in general. When I hit my Upper Limit, I do something that stops my positive forward trajec- tory. I get into a conflict with my ex-wife, get into a money bind, or do something else that brings me back down within the bounds of my limited tolerance."


~ Gay Hendricks


“I have a tendency to sabotage relationships; I have a tendency to sabotage everything. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of being afraid.


Useless, good-for-nothing thoughts.” ~ Michael Buble


Turning Self-Sabotage into Gold I


am sure you're familiar with the old parable of a boy watching two wolves fighting. There was a dark wolf and a light wolf and the boy asks the Master which wolf will win the fight. The Master tells the boy that the wolf he feeds will win. Now this parable is great for examining which energy you are feeding in your life; but when it comes to self-sabotage I have another an- swer, different than the one the Master provided. I say when both wolves are fed then neither one needs to provoke the other. Let me explain. One of the biggest problems with self-sab- otage is there is no one else in the room, or at least so it seems. It baffles us why we do such a thing to ourselves. Why do we derail our diet by binging on donuts? Why would we procrastinate again and again, putting ourselves under severe stress instead of just doing the project when it was assigned? Why is it that we were on the computer until 3am for the third night in a row, when we swore never again? Because you are not alone. Well, to be more precise, you are not just one person. All self-sabotage stems from this paradox. Imagine one part of you is a care-free, child-like persona


who is driven to play, have fun, and seeks pleasure as its purpose for being. Now imagine your other part is logical, systematic, and data driven, making outcomes its purpose for being. So, you have these two seemingly opposed parts: carnal/logical, physical/ thinking, animal/computer.


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These two diametrically opposed parts of yourself work fantastic together when they share a goal. For instance, if you want to eat healthy and you crave vegetables then you are in alignment and have no trouble with this eating plan. If you are a morning person and have a paper route then getting up for work is a joy. This alignment is so seamless it’s invisible, so we don’t even know to look for it when it’s missing.


“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines


how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.” ~ Gay Hendricks


What happens for most of us is that our computer part de-


cides something needs to change and imposes a system to pro- duce an outcome. After all, that’s its reason for being. Now, the animal side is the part that is the recipient of this new system, which feels like a shackle, and it only goes along with it until it can figure out how to escape it. Thus, you start out great guns on your diet, perking right along for a week or 10 days, and then BAM! The next thing you know you’re wiping sprinkles off your shirt from the 3 donuts


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